My best friends daughter is a brat?

Question

My friend of 6 years has a daughter the same age(11) as mine. Our daughters have grown up together and were always friends until my daughter started attending the same school. She has ignored her, blatantly excluded her from parties, sleepovers and school functions its really sick. I tried to talk to my friend but she became defensive. Said my daughter is overly "sensitive". This child is an only child and very indulged. She can do no wrong in her mother's eyes. I've had it and I haven't spoken to my friend for months. We worked out together every day traveled with our families, spent holidays. She knows I'm very angry. I feel betrayed and can't talk to her about it.

Answer 1

I know how you feel-I felt betrayed by a friend but yet just couldn't muster up to talk to her about the problem-because I knew she wouldn't see it the way I did, therefore she would just think I was overreacting. But, alas I chopped her form my life-at 1st I was like "are you crazy", and then I realized, no I am not crazy, just sick of her bull, and not wanting to help me out-be a good friend.Boy, does it feel good. you already tired talking to her, therefore it is time for her to do her part-you can only do; say so much. If the friendship has to end because of this issue-it could of been for the best, this is your daughter's life in jeopardy. IF my child was going through the same thing ....and my so called friend wasn't being helpful...then I'd talk to her about it-and if she still wouldn't do anything about it, I would chopp her out of my life. This relationship is unhealthy for my child, and I can't just pretend that everything is fine, because it's not. Sounds like the old saying is true "like mother; like daughter". I bet karma will bite that brat in the as s, it is just a matter of time. Tell your daughter to start fresh and just ignore her, but never to let the brat harass her.

Answer 2

Kids grow apart . Parents don't always know why . They can be friends one minute ; and the next minute , not . Grown-ups should know better than to let it effect their friendship .If the other daughter is a brat , ask yourself why it matters to you so much ?
The fact that she blatantly cut your daughter out of her special activities , and then berated her for being hurt over it says a lot about the brat .You weren't betrayed ; your daughter was . You say you can't talk to the mom about it - but you managed to let her know how your daughter feels about the whole thing . Accept the fact that the girls are individuals , and are not seeing eye to eye . Don't push it . It will either resolve itself on it's own ; or it won't . Both of you shouldn't depend on someone else for your happiness . Sometimes when our kids have hurt feelings , it effects us more than it does them ; and quite possible , your hurt is keeping hers' fueled .. There's a big world out there . Enjoy it . The best of luck to you .

Answer 3

I had the same problem with my daughter and my X best friends daughter. Did you get the part X? here is the deal we let it come between our friendship after 20 years. Its sad to say but its what I gave up for my daughter. Now our daughters are grown and well we don't talk anymore and I miss her. I understand that you can't talk about it either but neither did I and well I just stopped talking to her and now that my daughter is grown and both our girls have moved away from home we don't see eachother. Talking is better then loosing don't you think? I wish that I would of talked then maybe I would still have my friend.

Answer 4

I agree, you asked no question, sounded like you just wanted to vent. But for the record, I would have done the same thing. Accept the fact that your ex-friend is extremely nearsighted where her daughter is concerned, and that you will probably never be able to resolve this and get an "I'm sorry" from anyone. Don't forget to reassure your daughter that it's not her, that there will be rude, bratty, mean and insensitive people (and stupid parents!) everywhere she goes, and that she is a beautiful person no matter what. I'm sorry that you experienced that; having to give up a friend and defend your daughter TO said friend sucks.

Answer 5

i imagine that you're completely interior of your rights. you're, after all, conserving your daughter because it kind of feels as if each little thing she has tried hasn't worked. in case you do ever enable this lady back into your position, besides the undeniable fact that, tell her that below no unclear words will she be allowed to act those methods in the route of you, your daughter, or your relatives, or act as if she owns your position even as it truly is YOU that owns it, in the different case she won't be able to come back into the homestead--ever. by the way, what does your daughter say how this lady acts round her in public, at the same time with in college or in public places? If she is an similar way except at your position of abode, then she has a severe difficulty. if it truly is the case, then i'd truthfully tell my daughter that she isn't to affiliate with this lady for some thing because this lady is using her to bully her, get her way (administration her), etc. i keep in mind that your daughter is mad at you; what youngster doesn't get mad at their mom and father for some thing or different. yet do no longer backtrack by any ability. in case you do, she will keep in mind that she receives her way by being mad at you. Plus you're doing this on your daughters protection, even besides the undeniable fact that she doesn't see that at present. i understand how puzzling it truly is (now to not backtrack). I actually have raised 2 babies and am now a nanny to a youngster and a pre-schooler. elevating babies, as i'm positive you recognize, is the most rewarding yet yet the toughest job in the international (a minimum of it truly is to me). provide your daughter time. i'm positive that she will ultimately see why you've banned this lady out of your position and could experience extra useful about herself by no longer having her round to bully her and tell her what to do continually.

Answer 6

I wouldn't have cared if my child wasn't invited over to my friend's kid's anything. My child would have enough confidence to attract people to her. That may be what should have happened. If she could have attracted some people from her classes, then she would have had her own set of friends. Then you and your friend would still be talking.

Answer 7

Give it time, your friend's daughter will eventually do something that will embarrass the hell out of your friend. Just as sure as she thinks her kid won't, she will.

Answer 8

um, so whats the question?