I have had enough and choose not to live like this anymore. I told her what I expected of her. She moved out but were still seeing each other. It's been 3 months and she seems to want to move back home. Should I take her back and will she change from being like she was?
2007-01-18 04:57:48 · 8 answers · asked by Wondrin Dude 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a little skeptical because I don't have the same feelings as before. I know I deserve better and capbable of it. I am really sick of her attitude; so I am pretty much struggling to be as understanding as I once was. I should get the feelings back, won't I?
2007-01-18 05:11:01 · update #1
People can change, yes, but the basic character is going to always be present. The three things you mention, are things that would be extremely difficult to change. When you say it 'seems she wants to move back home'.....doesn't sound to me like a real willing desire or that you wouldn't be in for what you got in the past. She needs to be more than just 'seemingly'. What has she done in the past three months to show you that she has changed? You know what they say, "past history is an indicator of future behavior'....you need to see real change, real desire, and a real commitment----do you?
2007-01-18 05:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen a consistant change? Have you seen any signs of the old surfacing? That took a lot of time and energy moving out and it has only been 3 months, you might want to make sure you see no signs of the problems before changing anything. Test her but never never let her know.
2007-01-18 13:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! they never change...could go well for 3 months but then will start up again...believe me i,m in the same boat!....on the other hand she's really taking time to make up der mind on the ultimatum! I would have blown her long ago! Hope it works out for you...as for me she was history by now making out with her best friend!
2007-01-18 13:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by crisjul v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. I'm sorry but people do not change like that. they may feel sad about what they did and act differently for a while, but once they are comfortable they will go back to the way they are. if you really can't stand it you need to move on.
2007-01-18 13:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by hime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ultimatums don't change people, just makes them more stubborn and resistant to change. she won't change until she has to suffer because of who she is, she won't be able to see herself until she experiences real pain. than she may look inside and be able to see it. just talk to her, tell her how u feel and how her behavior has hurt u, be honest, and clear in what u are saying to her, without laying blame or bashing her. and see if she is willing to change. she has to make the changes, and acknowledge that her actions have perhaps caused this.
2007-01-18 13:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sure is.... You can choose to change if you want to... Yes if she changes and you see it then by all means take her back and give her another chance.... We all make mistakes and no one is perfect but we can all change and learn from our mistakes.You also need to find it in your heart to forgive her and let the past be that the past!
2007-01-18 13:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think EVERYONE is capable of changing. Only it cant be because of the ultimatum alone, you have to WANT to change. You have to do it for yourself, no one else or it will NEVER happen. The desire has to be in your heart.
2007-01-18 13:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible...
Women can learn to become submissive to their husbands
if their husband is man enough to handle them....
You sound like just the man for the job...
2007-01-18 13:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋