what would you do...
not leave and let them know that your scared...
or leave and prove them wroung...
2007-01-18 04:54:31 · 12 answers · asked by that_playmate_tori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Make sure you have a stable job, and are financially ready to move out before you do. That is the only way to prove them wrong. If you are dependent on them to do things for you, that may be their reasoning for thinking you cannot make it on your own. Make sure you have enough money to move and all the money for utility deposits, and have a at least 3 months rent in the bank before you even consider moving out. It's also a good idea to make sure you know how to keep a house clean, do your own laundry and fix your own meals. Good luck
2007-01-18 05:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ughhhhhhh I have friends whore parents do that. They basically discourage them from ever moving out by saying how harsh the world is and how they'll never make it...blah blah blah. Basically, they're doing the exact opposite of what parents are supposed to do, which is to raise a happy, healthy person who can function on their own in society.
If you're young and don't have a full-time job or spend your money extravagantly, they may be right...it may be for your own good tht you stay with them until you learn money management and responsibility. But if you have all those things under control, I say find an affordable place and a nice roommate and move the hell out. Otherwise, you'll end up being 24 and still having a curfew and having to wash dishes for your mom. I've seen it happen when parents do this, and it's not fair OR healthy. Just make a budget and show it to your parents to let them know you are being mature and really planning this thing out. Take them to look at an apartment with you so they can feel involved. If they're still unsupportive, then you're probably not benefitting from them very much at home anyway, so just move on out and live YOUR life! Good luck.
2007-01-18 05:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? That is a very important question.....if you are, say under the age of 21, I'd tell you you'd be an idiot for leaving home...I did at age 18..it was a disaster. I had NO idea what I would be up against for example;..the bills...keeping a job to pay those bills like rent...food...insurance..gas...electric..cable...I didn't have any furniture, no pots and pans, no bed...no towels, sheets or pillows...what if you get sick and need to go to the Dr? Can you take time off work to go? Can you afford the Dr? Where is your medical insurance going to come from? Car insurance? Don't depend on roommates...they come and go like the wind...think they'll always be there? Think again....it IS scary out in the world...be prepared when you go in to it...with your eyes wide open...the ONLY person you have to prove anything to is yourself....
2007-01-18 05:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and prove them wrong...IF you are of legal age, and IF you have a decent job to support yourself. Sometimes parents want to hold on to their kids because they feel they are safer living at home. However, it's best to let them go and guide them rather than keep them locked away where they don't learn to experience life. Your parents also may be afraid you will cut them out of your life if you move out...so if you do decide to do the move...be sure to stay in touch with them, invite them over, and maintain contact so that they will still feel part of your life
2007-01-18 05:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save up for a while, it helps. I was in the same situation and I saved a little and them moved out an proved them wrong. It's been 6 months now and I am doing great!
2007-01-18 04:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you have a sound plan for when you leave...this is where i am living this is what my living expenses will be this is how much i will be making etc. Show youre plan to your parents to hopefully make them be more comfortable with your leaving, but ultimately if i have a good plan for moving out and its what i really want...i woud do it no matter what my parents say.
2007-01-18 04:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 08:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and prove them wrong because that's what they're trying to get you to do anyway.. Either way, they win! They always do!
2007-01-18 04:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the amount of income you have. You NEED money to survive, they are probably right in what they are saying. Nothing in life is free.
2007-01-18 04:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well depending on what sort of state your in job-wise and money-wise.. if you're stable then go for it! otherwise prove your independence and machurity in some other way :) x
2007-01-18 04:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋