I'm 12, my mom makes me wear an apron at home to help around the house and when she wants if I'm not doing chores. She says it's sweet and feminine and I look cute. One of my aprons is like the one the girl is wearing at http://www.americanhostess.com/victorianrufflebluecheckzoom.jpg I have others, even more frillier.
I don't like, especially in front of friends, but she says I have to and doesn't back off. She' a good mom, treats me with love, but makes me wear aprons. Is she right or is she man? Should I rebel? If I rebel, should I be punished?
2007-01-18 04:51:04 · 16 answers · asked by Kiki 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Oh, I mean, even when I'm not doing chores
2007-01-18 04:52:06 · update #1
I thnk that you should talk to your mom and see maybe why she wants you to wear something like that....maybe she had a very hard childhood and maybe she wants you to be just like her... i think that you should sit down with her and talk to her about wearing stuff like that espically in front of your friends. I know how it feels to be embarassed also if they are really your true friends then they will not care what you look like.
2007-01-18 04:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky STUFFY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to ask your mom why she is so set on this one thing. Seems like she is trying to keep you as "her little girl."
Sometime when you are NOT wearing an apron (maybe in a neutral location like out to eat at a restaurant) you need to simply say that the aprons she is making you wear are not comfortable for you. Ask her if she has a particular reason for wanting you to wear an apron, and for wearing that style. If she just says "sweet, feminine and cute" tell her that you really want to be OVER those things - that you are growing up. Tell her you would like to grow up and offer to wear really old clothes when you are cleaning or a different style apron when you are cooking.
If she absolutely refuses to compromise in your conversation, then I think that maybe you could enlist one of her friends or another family member to try to reason with her. This is obviously important to you, and is a signal of bigger control issues to come if you two cannot communicate over this issue.
2007-01-18 05:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a little bit weird... but really it's not that big a deal. She probably doesn't want you to ruin the clothes you're wearing (which she probably paid for, right?) You should try to talk to her about it, tell her that it embarasses you when she makes you wear it in front of your friends (maybe tell a little white lie that they tease you about it or something... it's up to you). If you do rebel, I don't think she has any good reason to punish you, but that doesn't mean she won't. It might be best to just wear the stupid apron while you're doing chores (I don't see why you should have to wear it when you're NOT doing chores, that's ridiculous, it's like you're Mummy's little dolly that she dresses up for fun) and avoid arguments. Anyway, I hope you solve your problem without having to fight with her. Good luck : )
2016-05-24 03:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could talk to your mother and come to a compromise like, you'll wear it when she wants if your friends aren't around OR you'll wear it for chores but not when you are reading, on the computer, watching tv, etc. You are getting old enough to speak to your mother rationally and come to an agreement.
She is right to do whatever she feels is correct.
I strongly advise against rebelling as it leads to punishment. Yes, you should be punished for rebelling.
2007-01-18 05:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aprons are used for doing chores,other than that I wouldn't expect my daughter to wear one & when & if she does it's definitely not frilly. They are meant to protect your clothes not to make you look cute. What sort of perverted delight does she get out of this. Again she is also demeaning you in front of your friends. I hope you don,t get teased at school by your friends if so then that's one good reason to advise her that you don't wish to wear them other than for cleaning the house.
MIND GAMES by another adult??????????????
2007-01-22 01:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom is stuck in the 50s cuz girls no days down ware frilly aprons!!! You should be honest with her and tell her you dont like the aprons and ask her if you can stop waring them!!!!
2007-01-18 10:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, your are kind of old for your mom to tell you what to wear so just tell her you feel embarrased when your friends see you and tell her you'll wear an apron, but just ask her if you can wear a different one.
2007-01-18 05:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That apron is beautiful hunny.. well, at ur age maybe u wouldnt like something frilly.. maybe u cud tell her so. if she'd remove it then it mite look better on u... jus tell her that u dont feel good wearing them. my mum used to sew me frilly dresses and if i dont like them, id still wear it and wear a black face the entire time that the dress was on me. and she finally got it.. so no more frilly dresses!
2007-01-18 04:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, talk to her in a neutral enviroment...no friends, and not at home...you need to tell her why u feel uncomfortable (frills, etc.) you still need to respect her choices though. maybe you can ask you WHY she feels that you need to wear frilly aprons.
2007-01-21 19:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Steve Jobs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you would like to try some new clothes.
Tell her that you will wear them for chores....
2007-01-18 04:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋