We have been best friends since 5th grade, and 12th grade was over last June, so about 7 years, but as we continue our friendship, I start to not like her. She's becoming, in my opinion, snobbish, and she has no sense of humor, she used to always criticize me, she doesn't support me very much sometimes, etc. I try to be the best friend I can be, but sometimes she doesn't hold up her side of the deal, and she's just not the kind of friend I want anymore, but I don't know how to tell her I'm not interested anymore, in being friends with her. What to do?
2007-01-18 04:39:22 · 12 answers · asked by Air of Mystery 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I'm almost 19 in just 14 days and she turned 19 the 6th of this month
2007-01-18 04:44:37 · update #1
Why not just tell her how you feel about her behavior. Maybe she is totally unaware of her actions and how her actions are affecting you. Communicate. Giver her a chance at least. I mean you've been best friends for a long time. A best friend is soooo hard to find. Maybe she feels that because the two of you are so close she can just be herself but she's not understanding that maybe she's taking your friendship for granted.
2007-01-18 04:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by Thumper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She’s upset that her sister told her mother everything that all of you told her. Even though her sister was the one that told on the both of you, she’s the only one that got in trouble. She may have even been part of the conversation but because she’s the one that got in trouble, not you or her sister she’s not speaking to you. Unfortunately, she trusted her sister and so did you but now your friendship is on the line for it. Give her time to get over her punishment…whatever that may be and she’ll perhaps come around. You stated that she’s made drinks for someone else, that may be true but perhaps because this is the 2nd time she’s done this her punishment may have been a lot harsher this time. What you need to understand is she’s making drinks for you and other people, probably in her home if something happens to you her parents are responsible even if they don’t know about it and wasn’t part of it. You’ve been friends for 6 years of more if the friendship means anything to her she will get over being mad at you and you’ll be close once more. If she doesn’t get over it and continues to blame you then you know that your friendship really wasn’t there and it’s time to find another best friend.
2016-05-24 03:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is truly your best friend and you want to do the decent thing, then tell her what upsets you. If she understands and tries to change then you got your friend back. If she does not understand, then you can just stop being friends and at least she will know why. As it is so cruel to disappear or avoid someone without letting them know why.
Be careful when you tell her though what upsets you about her, be sincere but polite, otherwise she will get too defensive and you may lose your best friend for ever.
2007-01-18 04:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by scarlett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, I think it's best just to back away slowly and not say anything. Take less and less phone calls gradually... be "busy" often.
I know alot of people feel like that's just running away but it's definitely the easiest route. That way, when she looks back on your friendship... she won't remember a horrid confrontation where you said you didn't like her anymore... she'll just say..."we drifted apart". No biggie...
Plus, it leaves a door open for later if she does grow up a lil and you want to be friends again. It won't be so hard to get closer again.
2007-01-18 04:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by whateva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do need to say something and do something a.s.a.p whether you tell her straight out or wait till the next time something happens you stand up for your self.
Be prepared for a back lash. Even if you maintain your calm demeanor, she most likely will get very upset and hurl demeaning insults- remember who you're dealing with.
Don't be a door mat anymore for anyone. This is going to be a valuable experience for you. It will help to prepare you for these situations which will come up frequently in life. Good luck!
2007-01-18 04:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by MeaCulpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Up Front,
Take her aside, to some place private and explain your feelings about the relationship
But say it in a calm matter, and what ever you do don't curse or raise your voice, that will only make things worse. If she gets, mad, you don't get mad.
2007-01-18 04:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by ArchAngel Raziel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have grown as a person, and she hasn't. Tell her just what you wrote here, and maybe she will see the light...
2007-01-18 04:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by P-Nut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you feel. You have been friends too long to throw it away. At least talk to her about it first. You both may be able to fix it.
2007-01-18 04:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i gather from your additional details that you want her to identify you.
anyway, if she's really that bad, stop talking to her, let things drift, and soon, she'll forget you. that's a peaceful way to move on.
2007-01-18 05:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Hulabaloola 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to beat it. Doesn't sound like she has been too sensitive to your feelings, why give a crap about hers?
2007-01-18 04:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋