She volunteered the information to me, but when I ask her to elaborate, she says either "i"m not going to tell you about my crisis", or just shakes her head and waves her hand to dismiss it. Would that lead you to believe it was something she is afraid to tell me about?
2007-01-18 04:22:46 · 6 answers · asked by phil5775 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
as long as it doesn't interfere with your relationship why worry about it?
2007-01-18 04:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by petemeup b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her know that you are there if she wants to talk about it and not pressure her.
It would make me wonder why she brought it up if she didn't want to talk about it? She is either embarrassed by it or she is what I call a social/mental vampire (constantly needs someone fawning over them in concern until it slowly sucks the life out of you). You know her better than anyone on here, so you'll know what I'm talking about when you think about this.
Otherwise, let it go. If she wants to talk about it, she will. Let her know you aknowledge her crisis and leave it be.
2007-01-18 12:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she brought it up to tell you about it....
but you acted so keen and eager to know, that she questioned whether or not you were mature or sensitive enough to handle the information she was about to offload.
it probably was a sensitive time when she did a lot of stupid things and your pressure made her feel uncomfortable. Chill out, don't mention explicitly again and eventually when the trust is built back up, she will tell you some of the stories.
2007-01-18 12:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Frederick Hubbard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it is something that she prefers to leave in the past, don't dwell on it, if and when she is ready to talk about it she will, but for now I guess she isn't at ease with discussing it.
2007-01-21 06:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely. I think that if you really care about her you should wait until she is ready to offer that information to you. She is obviously traumatized by this and she needs to be able to open up to you but in her own time. If for some reason she can not ever open up please be gentle with her about it. Its not that she doesn't trust you but she simply can not talk about it.
2007-01-18 13:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it sounds like she just doesn't want to go into detail about it, probably because it was too painful or difficult or embarrassing.
2007-01-18 12:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Chanteuse_ar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋