I have this problem I guess you can say. I am happily married to a loving wife. Well her and her sister have approached me. Her sisters husband can't have kids and they are wanting one. They have asked me to get her pregnant. They can't afford to get the procedure done so I would have to have sex with her. This is what is making me think about it cause I feel like I am cheating on my wife by doing this even though she is ok with it. Should I just suck it up and do it or let them know how I am feeling?
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2007-01-18 04:11:32 · 17 answers · asked by andyramvzb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife may be O.K. with the idea now, but what happens later after the deed is done? She will always know that you slept with her sister and probably didn't put up too much of a fight about it either. The relationship between sisters can become strained for a variety of reasons and they may be best buds now, but what happens later if they are not. Trust me - this will come up between them at that time. Save yourself a major amount of trouble and tell her that you are totally uncomfortable with this and would rather not. You definitely don't want this to come back to bite you in the future.
2007-01-18 05:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Harley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kunke's idea will work. But there are legal issues involved --- assuming their marriage doesn't last, the mother could come after you for child support, ever if she has signed off anything that she would never do that (One cannot legally give up rights to a yet unfiled suit). And there is an old saying, "when in doubt,,,,, don't. Tough call here --- you'd really like to help them have a child, but then do you never tell this kid who his real father is later when he might really need to know for medical reasons? (Imagine his shock) And how are you going to feel about that child as it grows older, and you know something about him that he himself does not know. What if this child is born with some defects --- could you be sued??? It's way more complicated that you may believe.... They might be just wayyyyy better off going to a fertility clinic, and getting donor sperm.....No matter what the cost.
2007-01-18 12:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Several years ago I had some friends with the same problem and as bad as I wanted to see them have a family I just couldn't do that part. i just feel like there are going to be a lot of regrets that you could never change and questions that you don't want to answer (wife) So I would think long and serious before making that decision.
2007-01-18 12:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely NO way you should do this, even if your wife says it's ok at this time. It will come back to haunt you for the rest of your life if you do. Your wife will re-think it, and in the end look at it as though you had an affair with her sister. Your child will never get to live with you. It can never call you "daddy". What if you enjoyed the sex with her sister more than you do with your wife? You will have to have sex with her more than once certainly to get her pregnant which your wife will resent strongly. NO WAY , NEVER....do NOT do this! There are sperm banks for needs such as this.....let her use one!!
2007-01-18 12:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good idea unless you put your semen in a cup and have a doctor insiminate her with it but only if your wife is okay with it and her husband is.... I dont know if this is the wisest choice but it will be up to you guys.... You should not have sex with her at all....This would be cheating on your wife and do not do it this way is all I am saying. They need to do it the right way or it wont be good. Sex is not the answer here.
2007-01-18 12:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Don't do it unless you want some major problems to arise in your marriage and continue for the rest of your life! There is a fictional book called The Blessed Event (can't remember the author) that will help you see what could happen if you choose to do this. I wouldn't even consider it if I were you, especially if you love your wife and want to stay with her. Good luck
2007-01-18 12:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your need to tell them how you fell, first of all. My aunt had the same problem and they had my uncles best friend, put his sperm in a cup and injected it her with a turkey baster. It took a few times but now she has a beautiful baby boy. There are other ways too, with out paying for a big procedure.
2007-01-18 13:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a problem with that, and I wouldn't suggest doing it, it will back fire, and your wife will resent you later, because your baby will be running around at her sister's house and she will be jealous because you will know that its your child and you will feel something for that baby no matter what you do. It will ruin your marriage, tell your wife that you don't want to be with anyone but her and that you don't feel comfortable doing that. tell her that you would like to help them try and find a man for her, but it can't be you! Good Luck!
2007-01-18 12:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let your wife know how you feel. If your wife and her sister and sisters HUSBAND is okay with it, you will be doing a great deed for the family.
However, make sure the family knows how this will all relate; your nephew/neice, would actually be your son/daughter.
2007-01-18 12:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have sex with her. Have your wife masturbate you to completion in a cup then (within a few mins.) give cup to SIL's husband w/ a turkey baster and let them make the baby together.
SIL will have to make sure she is ovulating and such other things so you don't have to do it again.
2007-01-18 12:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋