I hate some Black people sometimes?

Question

I'm a honor roll student, I take several AP courses and I'm college bond. My family and I have been working our hardest to get ot the top. I've been having a rough time at school in these past few years. I'm in High school and I've been getting a lot of hate and strife from my own Black people. They are always calling me names like Oreo, whitewashed, and boughy. I'm so frustrated and I get into a arguement with one of these hoodrats everyday.They throw stuff at me and call me white girl.And it got to the point when I said that "I hate Black people" I never meant to say this but, some Blakc people just make me ashamed and they are becoming walking stereotypes and mintrels. It makes me sick how some of the black students at my school just think that they can never amount to anything. Don't get me wrong, I'm proud of all of the Black folks like Oprah, W.E.B DuBois, and MLK who empowered our people to learn and defy all negative stereotytpes. Has any Black other Black ever felt this way?

Answer 1

We all hate sometimes , I know how u feel. If u do your homework or pass all of your exams they say "Why u actin white?" Stay close to your real friends and keep your grades up. Some black kids don't realize their potential (until it's time to apply for College) which is very sad. Don't worry, it gets better in College.

Answer 2

Some people are just ignorant but this isn't how all Black people are. Obviously those individuals that make comments like that are the types that sit around watching BET and rap videos all day. These types have no opinion and no style of their own they just copy what the next person is doing. I haven't really experienced that even though I've always been a good student and positive person. The schools that I attended were mostly Black and had some of the best students in the city, so it was more competitive.
I think some people have a perception of how a Black person is suppose to behave and carry themselves and that is a stereotype. People think that if you speak properly, go to class and try to become a success that you are acting "White". That is ridiculous to me because since when do White people have a monopoly on being intelligent and successful. People need to start being themselves and stop following the crowd. Don't worry about those losers they are jealous of you because they don't have the courage to step outside the box and be themselves, instead of living up to some stereotypical image of Blackness.

Answer 3

Honestly, I think we (black people) have all had these moments when we feel this way. I'm not mad at you for saying this. I went through the same thing when I was in high school. I can vividly remember being told that I was somehow "acting white" simply because I got good grades in school, didnt talk or act a certain way, etc. My response was always "I'm not talking white, I'm talking right". White people do not have a patent on succeeding in school or behaving a certain way. Unfortunately, some of our people have been conditioned to think this way. Our job as part of that "talented tenth" the Dubois spoke of is to step on some toes and pull the coats of our brothers and sisters who feel that they dont have a chance. If you feel this way often perhaps you need to take some of that anger and turn into into a passion that drives you to help uplift your people. If you let this feeling overwhelm you to the point where you no longer want to be associated with your own kind, then you are only contributing to this vicious cycle. Basically, I dont even know you but as black man who has been in your position I am proud of you because you are thriving and succeeding in a country that has historically undervalued you. You should be proud of that. Dedicate yourself to changing the attitude that you have experienced. Remember, sometimes our people frustrate us beyond belief, but they are still OUR people.

Answer 4

I under stand exactly what your saying. Wouldn't use the words hate, but a lot of times I feel disappointed with black folks. What your saying is what Bill Cosby tried to explain and you what people thought about his views. Blacks are so much more more intelligent and artistic then what the media portrays of us. And yet large amounts of us continue to feed into these stereotypes.

I'm all for helping my people succeed, but not at the expense of my family or myself. And you should conduct yourself the same way. I guess I wouldn't be so upset if there were just a few people like this, but there are just too many of us not really doing anything. I'm sure when you get to college you'll find plenty of blacks who won't disappointment you and will give you a sense of belonging.

Answer 5

Hello ,I understand were your coming from I'm also a honor roll student in High School that doesn't have any black friends because they think I want to be white they make fun of my family the place I live they call it white shady homes .Something they don't understand is both of our family's had goals to be better they choose not to stay on welfare or stay in low income houses but you know something there is no answer to this the best thing for you to do is tell them you have set goals in your life and you will achieve them to better than the next person .

Answer 6

It's normal for you to be annoyed at other black people when their behavior makes your life more difficult and subjects you to negativity by association (as unfair as that is). It sounds like you were just venting and have a pretty full apreciation of the breadth of experience that exists within the black community.

My high school was somewhat similar. Most of the black kids weren't bad like you're describing, but there was a group who were and they were a terror. I never found myself saying I hated black people though. I just didn't like that group of people. At all.

By all means keep aiming for high achievement and do your best in high school. These negative experiences will quickly be behind you when you enter college. There you'll find more goal oriented, ambitious people like yourself of all ethnic groups.

And know that however much these kids may annoy you, they are really the ones with the problem. They're limiting their life prospects while you are expanding yours. Gettings kids like the ones you've described to change their behavior is the single biggest challenge facing the black community in this country.

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Answer 7

No most black people don't feel this way! You mention MLK, remember its the content of a PERSON's charter not the color of the skin you should be looking at.

Just because you're taking AP course and doing well in those courses, doesn't mean that you can't be ignorant in other areas. You can't be any more than 16 or 17 years old.

If they frustrate you why do you waste time talking to them?

Answer 8

No, As a black woman I never felt this way nor have I generalized a group of people this way. You shouldn't say you hate ALL black people but you dislike the behavior of those black people who mistreat you. I want to encourage you to continue doing what you are doing by staying on the honor roll and being yourself. These same people that picked on you will probably need you one day. Just know that you have goals, and you will reach them regardless of what they say. I was picked on in high school as well. I was called names because I wasn't as smart as some of my classmates. Four years after graduating high school, I ended up being the 1st in my high school class to graduate from college and working on a masters degree. So, never mind those people. I charge you to not view all black people this way because they are not. You are probably surrounded by these students who have no goals, or have low self-esteem. So, disregard them and continue on. They will eventually leave you alone.

Answer 9

well i understand were your coming from to a certain extent ...and just to let you know I'm actually and African American who wants to be something in life and i actually have goals i want to reach and i know i have to work for them and i don't expect ANYONE to just hand me a thing!! I believe that your a product of your society take me for example i was raised around a majority of Mexicans and Asians so basically i don't act like "the norm for black people"??? i speak properly i don't like rap music.. and I'm told i act white too.. i think most of the black people you describe are that way because they don't know any better... and usually they don't have anyone to teach them anything better... and they were raised in that type of society or a society were people act just like them and have the same mentality so how do you expect them to act any better and most of the people who make it out the ghetto and make something of themselves have had a seed planted by someone...that showed them that there was more to life then the cards they've been dealt so those people get lucky and strive for more.. Oh and there going to talk about you because your different don,t argue with them because its not worth it and ghetto black people are MEAN so don't waste your time just be happy with who you are ... don't lower yourself to there level .... dont start acting like them .... and the way you talk and act is going to get you somewhere in life .... so when they called you white washed just laugh it off you can be mad but at the end of the day just be like What EVER and just laugh thats what i do .... if you need to tlak im all ears heck i hear this stuff at home my sisters are ghetto im the "white one" LOL

Answer 10

Dont worry about them. You are doing the right thing. Actually Im at college right now typing this and on the bus on my way here, I saw an old friend, he saw that I was reading a text book and asked if I was studying for school and when I said yes he said ''thats wack'' and told me about how he was on his way to go buy new shoes (hustler) I thought about lecturing him on how he is going to be in our broke down neighborhood forever if he dont wake the hell up and stop feeding into the rap industry but it would have been a waste to both of us. Some people are just going to be stuck to their ignorant ways forever. As long as you do what you know is best, you'll be okay. You cant let people like them, bring you down, or even be on your mind to the point where you need to talk about it. They're not worth having any place in your brain lol. My friend and I were discussing slavery for hours sometime last year and she mentioned how allot of people in the black community look down upon education and she said she thinks its because during slavery African American parents had to instill the idea that knowledge was bad within their childrens minds because they obviously would be killed if they werent, excuse my lacking for a better word but ''stupid''. I agree with her. The slavery mentality definently stuck within the black community in not all, but most cases. Problem is, allot of people dont know that and are seeking for help in the wrong places. Well anyway, you ignore them and keep working towards bettering yourself. I am proud of you even though I only know you from yahoo answers! I see that you been through allot from your other questions that I answered.....and I am proud to see that none of those hard times held you down. You should really be proud of yourself. Not everyone can hold as much weight as we can on their shoulders and still be strong enough to keep moving forward! You are a very intelligent and strong young lady :)

Answer 11

Please, don't judge all black people by the ignorant ones you encounter, Think what folks like MLK or W.E.B DuBois would say if they heard you say you hate black people? Unfortunately, you're stereotyping also, as all black people don't act that way. Actually, other races and folks have the same issues also.

However, I do agree with you, as the folks (slaves masters) from the past have it engraved in our minds where we must degrade each other to destroy each other.

None the less, still had no right to shout out "you hate black people". Next time, just keep your comments to yourself AND be a little more "sparse" with your remarks