Well, I just left my last girlfriend because after years of dating many girls, I have started to get a feeling that I have a purpose in this world that requires freedom to make decisions by myself. Now, don't get me wrong, I have gone through the whole dating process the correct way. Each girl I dated had less of the "bad" qualities then the last girl did. Now my current ex-girlfriend was almost "flawless" in my eyes and I felt that she would be the girl to marry eventually. Well, after much self reflection (which started a few years ago) I started realizing that there was MUCH that I needed to do. I feel that I need to use my talents to make other peoples lives better. Anyway, a family would pretty much crush the possibility to do that. I believe that a person should devote 110% of his/her effort to nurture and advance the well being of his/her family unit. I am finding many people thinking my views are strange and I have a duty to find a good girl and get married. (PS, I'm almost 30)
2007-01-18 04:04:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's your life, do what makes you happy.
2007-01-18 04:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you don't want to get married, then don't do it. Take it from someone who has been married and divorced and I am under 30. I got married at 20 because I thought that was what I was suppose to do. You know, go to college, find a man, make babies and cater to his every need. I have a sister who just finished her Masters Degree and has no plans to marry until she is 35 at minimum. At least you were smart enough not to string teh girls along. Now go live your life. Good for you!
2007-01-18 04:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 08:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry until you can commit to the relationship!
Make sure you tell your future girlfriends that the relationship is unlikely to end in marriage. Maybe you will find a woman who just wants to play with you for a while.
2007-01-18 04:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word for you is avoidance. Why are you avoiding marriage. Maybe or maybe not, marriage is the path you are to take. Marriage can be a wonderful thing when it is and horrible miserable when it is not. Is marriage the only thing your family has put pressure upon you to do?
Yes, families can and do put pressure on other family member to meet their expectations. It is wise to consider what they are saying. On the other hand, no one can tell you what you should do or not do when it comes to marriage. It has to be your decision alone and you must be sure it is what you want for your life. Marriage between a man and woman was designed to last a lifetime.
It may not be so much a matter if you should get married as it is the person to whom you are to get married to with you. Also, are you the right person for them. What is your heart telling you?
Some people are too selfish and self centered to make a good marriage partner. Do you both share the same values? Are you ready to be servant to your wife? To love and cherish her above all else for the rest of you life? Do you want to spend the rest of your life without this person being your wife?
In the Bible it says that it is better not to marry in order to server God 100% of your time/life. God created you with a purpose in mind, if that purpose is better served without being married, all the better.
Life can be more interesting with a spouse. Having someone to share life is a hugh blessing. People were created for relationships. God gave Adam a wive, Eve. She was to be Adam's helpmate.
I am married. I am unable to serve God 100% of the time because I choose to take care of my responsibilities to my family. My time and resources have to be saved for my family. If I were not married, I could devote 100% of myself to doing God's work. It is a balancing act, many times I am pulled in both directions. When married, serving God also includes taking care of your family responsibilies.
That being said, I do love God with my whole heart and try to follow the path He has for my life. I also love being married and love having a family to take care of. I am thankful and blessed.
I have become a much better person being married and having children, it has helped shaped who I am today and developed my charcter for the better.
2007-01-18 04:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it is your life! you have to decide what to do with it. if you feel that being married is just not for you, well then it's just not for you! you will know when it is time! and you feel that other things are More important than marriage that's your opinion and not any body Else's. i would just tell them it didn't feel right! good luck
2007-01-18 04:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if it is unaccepted but it is not very popular but you should not marry until you are ready to.
2007-01-18 04:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u simply do not want kiddos
make sure u explain this to any future g/f
I am sure u can find one who also does not want kiddos
2007-01-18 04:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋