When you found out you were pregnant did you...?

Question

feel overwhelmed? Upset? Angry at yourself? Depressed? I found out several weeks ago, yet I just realized today how sad I am over it. I just feel like I hate myself. I cant quit crying. Will this go away?

Answer 1

I called my boyfriend crying uncontrollably as soon as the line came up on an at-home-test. We had been dating for about 9 months and had just rented a townhouse together and had been living there for about a month. He had asked me before what I would do if I got pregnant. We talked about it openly. He told me I was the only girlfriend he ever had that he wouldn't mind having a child with. When I called him he was excited. He proudly tells his family and friends. I am still so upset and disappointed in myself for letting this happen. Even though he is the only guy I have been with for a year I feel like a slut because I am not married. I don't think he will ask and even if he did I think I might say no. I just can't get excited.... I don't know why.... I want to be a glowing pregnant lady but I feel like a pathetic, depressed pile of mush.....

Answer 2

I depends on how you got pregnant I think. If it was an "oops" or "accident" then it's very stressful. When I got pregnant with my first...OMG I thought I was going to die! I was scared or EVERYTHING (my boyfriend now husband, parents because I was only 19, job, college and everything!). I cried for days....I missed work, locked myself in my apartment, wouldn't eat or anything! I thought my life was over and I even kinda wished something would happen and God would let me "off the hook". But once the dust settled and the pregnancy progressed into heart rates, belly growing and the wonderful kicks...it all changed. Who cared about anything else, my body was creating a life! You get a sense of duty I guess and it changes! Your priorities, thoughts, feelings, everything! By my 30th week, I was SO excited and happy I couldn't control it! My boyfriend had proposed too (said he had it planned before I got pregnant anyways, so ah well lol), my parents were fine and supported me and I found a different job. My daughter is 15 months now and I wouldn't change it, trade it or delay it for ANYTHING in this world. I can't imagine life without her. Your feelings will change. When it happens unexpectedly and usually young (I assume) it's SO scarey. You'll get over those feelings, and you'll be happy. Being a mother is worth more than any friend you have, worth more than ALL the nights out in the world and everything. Take it one day at a time and do the best you can.

My second pregnancy we tried for, so it was a THRILL when I found out and was nothing but happy. But there was a huge difference in where I was in my life between the two, even if not much time lol! Good Luck!

Answer 3

The first time I became pregnant I was happy, and scared. Most woman become very emotional when they are pregnant so I would expect some crying. Talk to your Doctor to make sure nothing else is going on. Alot of woman get baby blues but that does not usually take place till after the baby is born. With my last child I was sad, confused and happy. It was a time in my life when I did not want to be pregnant but I am glad I have her. Everything will be OK Hun. Keep up the good work, pregnancy is not easy on us woman but well worth the miracle in the end.

Answer 4

Calm down, everything is going to be fine, unless you are a teenager or a single mother with no help and no money, you will probably have a strong healthy happy bayby, and if you are young and or single you could think about open adoption.

I've read that it's very normal to have mixed emotions about these things, like how every woman suddenly thinks her groom to be isn't right for her on the day of the wedding.

You could be having the usual pregnancy mood swings too, if I were you I would pick up a pregnancy and parenting book like "What to expect when your expecting" It has answers to mood related questions and hundreds of others.

You should try to get excited about your baby, go buy some cute clothes and tiny shoes, and a crib and wallpaper. Youll feel better if you get excited and get out.

Spend time with friends and family, and tell lots of people your pregnant, you'll get showered with gifts and compliments.

If you still feel heartsick go see your doctor and tell him, i'm sure he will have better advice than me.

Just relax, I wish you good luck and remember, one of God's greatest gifts is the gift of being a mom

Answer 5

Not to downplay the emotional experience of discovering that you are pregnant, but your hormones are reaking havoc on your body right right now. It is normal to feel all of these things that you mention, especially if this was not a planned pregnancy.
Belive me you will go through many different feelings and emotions throughout your pregnancy. The best thing to do is to talk to someone if it is really getting you down. It takes time to get used to the idea that you are carrying a little human being in your stomach. Once you have the baby those emotions continue and may even get more pronounced, when your hormones are really going crazy, But believe me and probably many other will say this...it is so worth it, when you hold your beautiful baby in your arms. Definately seek help though if you find it just gets worse.

Answer 6

You are definitly a mix of emotions. Your hormones are out of wack. With that said if you feel too overwhelmed I would speak with your doctor. It is very normal to feel all these things. The hormones are still there so you will still feel this at times. I was joyful, elated, angry, depressed and sad all in the same minutes. We had planned it as well so I was upset with myself because I felt this way. Things will get better. But if you feel like it is really bad going to your ob/gyn might make you feel more at ease. Congratulations on your baby.

I am 11 weeks and 4 days pregnant. Still overwhelmed sometimes but boy now I am very joyful at seeing my baby. I saw my baby on ultrasound.

Answer 7

Yeah it's pretty normal, it's those hormones. Especially in your 1st trimester, there's alot of things going on with your body that's going to take alot of getting used to. When I was in my 8th month with my son I was so happy because I didn't get stretch marks but wouldn't you know a couple of weeks before I delivered BAM there they were I cried everyday because of those things until I delivered. It's a life changing event. I felt this way. I mean at I was real happy I couldn't stop smiling when I found out after looking at the test. Then it was like, oh man I won't be able to go to the beach and hang out with my best friend like I wanted to, I have a son and he's 5 and this is like the perfect age because they just start gaining a litlle more independence and I was really looking forward to these years. Then it was like yeah i'm pregnant, then it was like damn I gotta do it all over again and I did cry. My BF went through the same thing, he was happy then pissed, now he's happy all the time and it gets on my nerves because I look at him smiling and rubbing my tummy and talking to baby and all i'm thinking is yeah you be happy cause you're not the one that has to pack on like 40 more pounds. But when I look at baby clothes I think about my little angel how good my son was when he was a baby and I just think about how in the end it'll all be worth it.

Answer 8

at first i was overwhelmed, i was on my own with my boyfriend and i was TERRIFIED of telling my parents, i did not have a relationship with my dad at the time. i got off of the pill cause they were making me gain weight, i made an appointment to get the shot, and i got preggo in between. when you start getting a belly and you feel that baby move, it all changes. now my daughter is 22 months and i would not change a thing. i have sole custody and i do not receive child support, my relationship with my dad is the best it has ever been because of my daughter. i struggle yes, and it is tough sometimes, but i am so happy with her. it seems that all the troubles of the day melt, when i go to get her after a long day. dont worry, you will feel differently in a little while. you will see it for the blessing it is. dont worry about what other people think, its you and the baby now, it gives you strength to care for someone else and know they depend soley on you. im single, i work full time and go to school full time, im exhausted all the time, but i am soooo happy!!!!! gooooood luck, and God bless. enjoy your baby :)

Answer 9

my first pregnancy I was in shock and kept thinking what am I going to do? what am I going to do? I was 18 and not married and still living in my dad's house, and I knew my dad might call me awfull names like I'm just like my mom. maybe because of your hormones you are crying so much, but I began to soon love that I was pregnant. At 12 weeks along I started bleeding badly and it was then that I realized I really wanted the child because I kept crying if I lost the baby I could have not lived the same. today, my baby is a healthy four year old boy and I do not regret anything today that I did before.

Answer 10

I am sure that many emotions will overwhelm you. How can you hate yourself when you are going to be a mommy? the farther along you get, you'll bond with him/her and grow to love and accept your pregnancy. Just take a deep breath. Everything is going to be O.K.

I cried for hours, i was confused but I think mostly scared. Completely natural