I am heart broken.
2007-01-18 03:40:03 · 13 answers · asked by Puka247 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello, you didn't say how long you have been married , but it really doesn't matter, you need too decide if you really want too take the chance on her cheating again & what you want for your life forever more but sounds like she broke some rules that hurts everyone in the family not just you but especially you she broke the Vows she took & the trust & honesty & where is the love on her part for you ? Can you live with all of these rules she broke & learn too trust again you will never forget , if it was me I would be kicking her butt too the curb but in my case my husband butt too the curb but you have too make some really hard choices in you life now & if you have kids their going too be even harder choices too make of course though I'm a firm beleiver never stay in a marriage just for the kid .
I'm Sorry, for your pain ,I understand that fully from an ex boyfreind many years ago but of course its different from boyfriends & husbands & wives . I hope you take no offense in this cause I mean none let GOD help you he's the only one that can . I hope you the best in life & with your decesions that you have too make !!! Good Luck !
2007-01-18 04:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First throw a complete and TOTAL hissy fit, tell her to leave and go to her BF, then divorce her.
OR
You can sit down calmly and talk about what lead to her behavior. Is she sorry she had sex with him or just sorry she got caught? Then decide if the marriage is worth working on with therapy, time, and forgiveness.
The choice is yours, and it isn't an easy one.
2007-01-18 04:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. I can relate. My husband abandoned me for his ex-wife and I was 8 months pregnant and still a newlywed! We reconciled and it's been a very hard road. Even though he deeply says he regrets it. Trust and security is so hard to get back. If she doesn't truly regret it in her heart then I'd say run. Best wishes to you.
2007-01-18 04:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only endurance guy. do not hit her in any respect, that would want to favor to in no way be an selection for any youngster's habit. you should save putting her back into her mattress without holding a word. No concessions, no threats, only save bodily putting her in her mattress till she receives it that bedtime ability bedtime. She'll strive against you for a sturdy hour or 2, yet ultimately will bypass to sleep from exhaustion. in the morning clarify rationally that she has to start up going to mattress like a sturdy lady or she'll lose priveledges. make positive she is responsive to precisely what she'll lose if she acts up at bedtime back. next evening repeat the technique. on the first time tell her to bypass to mattress, placed her in the mattress, lights out. 2d time, warn her she'll lose her priveledge. 0.33 time tell her she has lost it. Fourth and after, no words. only save putting her back into her mattress. next day, save you're word and do away at the same time with her priveledge. clarify why you're doing that. it truly is all about endurance and explaining each little thing as obviously as plausible. elevating youthful babies is demanding. dropping your mood and hitting them is common. The harder selection is continually the right one. study "on your own sturdy," by Alice Miller. it truly is going to shed mild on corporal punishment. be affected man or woman and rational. it truly is the way you opt for to be dealt with, it truly is the way you opt for her to be dealt with for some thing of her existence, so start up it now. All movements have consequences. clarify them, be agency, and be affected man or woman. She'll study. feeding into her body of recommendations with concessions and platitudes, you'll make it worse. clarify the consequences, warn even as she's about to bypass the line, enable her understand she crossed it and what the effect is, and then end the verbal substitute. Tantrums end once you provide up feeding the flames with threats, and bargaining. Be silent and agency. She'll see she's no longer getting everywhere, and delivers up. it truly is going to take time, besides the undeniable fact that it truly is a lot extra useful than the alternative.
2016-11-25 01:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said much- like if there was an arguement or a fight, have you two been having problems? Even then how did you find out did she come out and tell you? Does she want to talk or is she leaving you??? Be more specific
2007-01-18 04:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lalangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce.
2007-01-18 04:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she sorry for what she has done to you and your marriage adn why did she feel that she wanted to sleep with him? You should talk with her and communicate and see if she wants to work on the marriage and if she does not then let her go.
2007-01-18 04:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time take a camera and film it and put it on the internet so we can all watch.
2007-01-18 04:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on,you need trust and respect in a relationship and she's just ruined that.good luck
2007-01-18 04:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by missy k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to make up her mind who she wants and stick with it.
2007-01-18 09:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋