screwing everything that moves out of marriage, or within marriage for the kids sake?

Question

married for 7 years, have one child, loved her much, recently i started my own medical praxis (i am a dermatologist) and straggling to get patients and contracts. She is a doc too ,but has great earnings (Hospital etc.). I had to invest a very big amount of money to make my cabinet , that putted us on the poor side for a while and there my wife decompensated and started to argue with me about evrithing and ultimatly make me feel like a loser, even involving social isues like i dont know how to be an aristocrat in public!!. I had to use money from resources and investments i own before marriage to open my cabinet and never touched our savings which are not very consistent cause we are at the start of our careers(~ 35 both).Well after the money demandings where resolved everything is like it was and she seems to love me like nothing was wrong ever. But my love is dead.
I cant decide between 2 options:screwing everything that moves out of marriage, or within marriage for the kids sake?

My spelling is bad because english is not may mother language, lets see how you literar critics wright in greek which is my lang.

Answer 1

i know it would ahve been so hard and it wasn't rt ...but attimes we fail to understand what needs to be odne and burden the burden not knowing that not to do....i am married and attimes we both enevr realise what to help each other at times of crisis...we unknowingly might have made it worse only to feel bad later...just give sometime ,see if u feel a little better and then decide...just take time off...if u never feel the same again..then u know what to do...
good luck with the new pratice..

Answer 2

This is for your sake and the kids. If u don't love her anymore then call it quits. If she finds out that u cheated u will loose your practice in court because u were unfaithful. As for the kids if u don't love her and u cheat on her then what are u teaching them about marriage and values? Not much. For their sake if it is over then end it without cheating. It can wait til the divorce. Seven years is a long time to give up on a marriage. If u have any thought that u want to stay with her get counceling. Then if that doesn't work then it is time for divorce. Take a good look at that word and what marriage meant when u 2 got married. To love each other til death do u part, to be faithful and forsake others, to honor and obey, and to cherish. Divorce is final. U are the only one that can decide what is best for u. Good luck and I wish u all the best.

Answer 3

You're ignorant about women is the problem. Women, even high functioning, professional women, are not really self directed beings with much of a will of their own. That's another way of saying that everything that happened, is happening and will happen, in your marriage results from your behavior, not hers. Because you are a man, and that way of being is so completely alien to you and because women are masters of taking on the traits of whatever man they are with, this seems impossible to you. However, it is true and you can reliably use this info to your advantage.

What happened is this. You felt like a loser because, even with all your great success, knowledge and position that only the most elite in the world possess, you weren't wealthy. You started to act like a loser. Your wife, God bless her soul, being a woman and completely unable to self direct her own life and the situations she is in, responded by treating you like a loser. Had you been aware of this issue, you could have carefully examined the way you behaved and maintained an air of being relaxed, in control and confident in whatever task you are doing. It's actually this attitude of being the man, being powerful and the expectation that you will eventually succeed in anything and everything, that is important....not what the current result is. Had you maintained this aura, your wife would have acted COMPLETELY differently. After you resolved the money issues, your behavior....changed. And so did hers.

Don't screw women outside your marriage. That does nothing except ruin the lives of everyone. Instead, explore this issue I just brought to your attention and see for yourself just how pervasive it is in your lives. Use it to make your marriage a good one and be happy together with your wife. And understand that she is no different than any other woman on the planet or throughout the entire history of humanity. Men are the ones that make everything happen in every facet of human existence. In a VERY real and direct manner, women are just along for the ride....no matter how rich, how educated or even what position they have in society. That's just the way things are.

Answer 4

If you are not in-love with your wife anymore then you need to be honest with her and tell her.You took vows when you got married and I don't believe that screwing outside the marriage was one of them.As far as the fact that you have a child together that is no reason to stay with someone.If you no longer love your wife that is fine that does not mean that you do not love your child.If you think it is ok to stay with your wife and sleep around because you have a child togteher you are sadly mistaken.What kind of morals and values do you want to instill in your child.I would hope that you would raise your child to know the difference between right and wrong.Being unfaithful is wrong.Tell your wife the truth of how you feel and if you need to seperate or get a divorce you need to also explain to your child that you still love him/her very much and that the fact that you and their mom don't want to be with eachother anymore is not their fault and that you will still be their dad.I hate it when i hear someone say that they stay together because of the kid's..That is a big excuse and it does nothing but harm the children.Don't use your child as an excuse be a man and either get counseling and work on your marriage or get divorced but still be a father to your child.Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Never stay together simply for the kids. Take it from me - my parents did this for years and my sister and i always wished they would just break up and be happy for once. Cheating on your wife is out of the question. It goes against morals and against the vows that you devoted yourself to. Also, as you should now by now, screwing EVERYTHING that moves is not a healthy thing to do.

Answer 6

I really think this one is tough. You are caught between a rock-and-a-hard place, but take it from me, staying because of the kids doesn't always work, and lets not forget the old (Sin) adultery!!
In my opinion if the strong gets gone when the going gets rough, then the strong has to GO!!!!

Answer 7

You will fell like this several time during a marriage. Marriage takes work and love sometimes feels non existant even though it is still there. Cheating will only make it worse and cause resentment and anger. And it will make it very dificult on your daughter.

Answer 8

Don't stay in a loveless marriage for the kids sake. It will hurt the kids more than a divorce will.

Answer 9

Ignore the ignorant who attack your spelling skills.

Personally I think you should go for marriage counselling. Love truly can return if you work on it, you loved her once and can again. Please don't give up so easily and don't screw around, it's not worth it. Good luck in your career. Peace :-)

Answer 10

I don't believe you are a doctor at all. You have horrible misspellings all over this post. You need to go back to bed and dream more and not try to imitate in life what you are dreaming.