I am 22 year old female and I have been dating this guy for 1year 3months. I am in love with him but I don't k

Question

I don't know if he really love me, the way I love him. The reason for saying that because he is 42 years old he been marry once, engage to be marry one time, know he is dating me. I am so in love but I don't really know if he really love me. I AM SO CONFUSE WHATS A GIRL TO DO.

Answer 1

Wow, I think you need to speak with a professional. Seriously. I've heard there are some good ones out there, and there is no shame in getting counseling.

First, is the age difference. A lot of people say I doesn't matter, but he is old enough to be your father. Did you have a dad growing up? What was your relationship like? It sounds to me like you missed out on a dad, or a father's love. No shame in wanting to be loved. You need to figure this one out though, it could come back to mess you up when you get older.

Second, I think you have a strong possesive and jealous nature. I looked at your previous questions, and after about 5 pages of questions about this man, I realized you are a little over the edge of normallcy when it comes to being possesive. These questions have been going on for about a year now. The type of questions you asked let me know how insecure you are. I almost feel like if he were to leave you, we all would hear about his demise on the news. Were you abandoned by someone in your past? Did you not get enough attention as a child? Have you dealt with a lot of rejection before?

Third, I think we would all understand your questions better if you could choose to use better grammer. Sometimes people want to save time typing by using abbreviations, but somehow I don't think this applies to you. You might feel better about yourself and more secure if you could get some help or take a class that will teach you better grammer.

Hon, you are so young and have so much to experience. Do yourself a favor and save yourself a lot of stress by taking your mind off of your boyfriend and put some effort into yourself. You will be amazed at how much happier you will be. Seek counseling, and take some adult education or college classes to help you expand your mind and think of other things that are important.

Plus whether it is this man or a man in your future - a good man will find a woman who is smart and confident attractive. And another note, there is more to this life besides being someones girlfriend.

Answer 2

ok here it is in a crude form--why should he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free? I know this is harsh but why should he marry you? maybe he doesnt want to commit to another marriage and go through all the BS again----its time you and he had a little talk---I also think the age gap is an issue. good luck

Answer 3

Step back and look at everything and see if you can really picture yourself being married to this guy for the rest of your life. Use that to make your decision.

Answer 4

Girl I feel you on the older guy trip. Love is an action word. They things that he does will tell you how he really feels. Open your eyes and see things for what they are and you will be able to see how he really feels.

Answer 5

you would better ask him about the future of your relationship,will his family accept you.if he is divorced then you have the upper hand otherwise be prepared for the worst.I know love is blind but you just can't go with the relation which has no future, you are so young,only 22, so better try for a perfect person who loves you more than yours love for him. ........best of luck.

Answer 6

GIRL LEAVE THAT OLD MAN ALONE AND GET YOU SOMEONE OLDER THAN YOU BUT NOT THAT OLD. HE IS JUST USING YOU AND SOONER OR LATER HE WILL BEGIN TO MAKE YOU DO THINGS YOU DONT WANT TO DO.
LEAVE HEIM AND FIND SOMEONE IN THEIR 20S DO BE A FOOL. BE SMART TREAT HIM THE SAME WAY HE TREATS YOU.