I'm 20 years old and have never been in a serious relationship until now. I am currently with my boyfriend for 6 months now, but I have known him for about 2 years. There is a problem.. I am confussed. In a moment I love him to death, but then he does something that really turns me off and well, then I get all confussed about my feelings towards him. For instance, he is NOT romantic and everytime I do something sweet he likes it but his reaction doesn't seem like it. The only times he gets romantic is when he sees that I am really sad.. he begins to say sweet things to me. He says that he wants to spend the rest of his live with me, but I don't know if to believe that. At the moment he doesn't work, I am the one that works and most of the time pays for everything. I don't want to even think that he is using me because of the fact that I work. His mother LOVES me! That's also another thing that I've been thinking about. He's a momma's boy and his mother tells him all the time that he
2007-01-18 03:04:11 · 4 answers · asked by Hmmmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
will never find someone like me.. so sometimes I think that he is just listening to her and is trying so hard to make us work out because HIS MOMMA said so.. ahhhh maybe I am thinking too much, but I don't know.. what do you guys think of my situation???
2007-01-18 03:04:36 · update #1
Dear Substitute Mother. You work and support him. He is not romantic. He doesn't work. Duh!!!!! Boot his lazy a s s out and get on with your life or he will be living off your social security check when you turn 65 or 70 or whatever the government raises the retirement age to.
2007-01-18 03:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a HUGE favour and break it off with this guy. When you meet the right guy you will not be confused. I can't emphasize enough to you that you need to love yourself and then perhaps you won't be so infatuated with guys who say "sweet things"to you. There is a lot more to Mr. Perfect than saying "sweet things" .....like consideration .....and if this looser is living off of you now....don't expect things to improve. Young girls need to keep reminding themselves that guys will say anything if they want something. The important thing is HOW DO THEY TREAT YOU. As for his mother "loving" you....I loved my daughter's first boyfriend too but they were not suited for each other and thankfully they realized that and went their separate ways. Trust me and save yourself alot of grief. You have plenty of time to find Mr. right.
2007-01-18 12:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by alicefazoooli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...I recently had a relationship like yours. We were together for 2 years and he hardly ever worked and I did everything took care of us and whatev. And a lot of times that pushed us apart because of my stress trying to pay for everything, and then I felt like in away I was like his mom. And besides that he was like a mommas boy to. everyone in his life always did everything for him and he neevr did things for himself. I think love is about chances, and you never really know if someone really love you or not. Somestimes ifelt like he used me but didn't want to believe that !! I think if you wanna make it work and u think you really love him and he is worth it, tell him he has to get a job and has to atleast be able to take care of himself...that should just be a given, If he doesnt get a job leave now while you can before you get to deep. its not fair for you!!!
2007-01-18 11:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously not the guy you are searching for and there is so many romantic people in the world so this is just another learning experience in your life there are many guys out there and the right one will come to you in time.
2007-01-18 11:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by scottsmith20 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋