Ok my wife and i have a child together and one on the way. I love her to death nd would do all things impossible for her, I still talk to her on the phone now and then and tell her i ilove her for closer like always but yet nothing from her. I am afraid that her living with her mother since our seperation has mad things harder for this mariage to be reborn. What should i do I miss her alot.
2007-01-18 02:25:00 · 15 answers · asked by shawn w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to get her mother out of the picture this is between the 2 of u. I respect the fact that u want to work things out. She need to think about the kids they need a dad and u seem like a good one. Is she willing to give up on a good husband and dad and end up with someone who may be bad for the kids and her? U need to be asking her this question. If her mother has any love for her grandchildren she will butt out this is none of her business. See if your wife will go into marriage counceling with u so u guys and work this out. If she says yes then do it, if she says no then maybe she is seeing someone else or thinking about it. If the word divorce comes up u know she is. U just need the proof. Then go to court and file for custody of the kids.
2007-01-18 02:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her that you love her and she does not respond, that is not good. You will have to sit down with her and talk about your relationship and see if it is salvageable.
Right now it does not sound good. You need to listen to her and find out why she cannot even say that she loves you.
While her living with her mother may not be helpful for you, it would not stop her from loving you, if she does. It sounds like whatever happened between you was severe enough to destroy her feelings for you. You have to find out if that is true or not.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-18 06:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have failed to say why you are separated.
I assume there were problems.
Realize that your behavior effects her behavior.
What ever you were doing has lead you here, so if you want something different you will have to behave different.
If need examples and ideas pick up the book "Divorce Busting" by Michele Weiner-Davis, it talks all about changing behavior to save a marriage.
2007-01-18 03:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one you didnt say why she is living with her mother...so u are all seperated? why? what made you all seperated and what have you done to get her back? what have you done to make her not want to talk to you?
counciling may help, but you need to take a look at your relationship and see why she doesnt want to talk to you... i mean there are 1 1/2 children involved...
send her flowers, see if she will go out on a date with you...if you did something wrong, she may be having a hard time trusting you again...but if its meant to be...she will come around...
2007-01-18 02:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why has she left and you are seperated???? See if your wife is open to going to marriage counseling with you.... Give her some time and space if you have to .... If there is any saving to your marriage then by all means do it and take her out on a nice romantic date or a movie if she is open to it.
2007-01-18 02:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you chase after her it puts her in command; and her mother. Women like to play games. Do this; be cool and detached and develop some outside interests. See if she starts to pursue you? We chase them and they think it is fun; when we don't chase they get worried that perhaps we are slipping away. Talk with an older married man about this fact of life.
2007-01-18 03:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spill out your heart. Be honest in your words and keep up to your word. BTW, why did the separation took place to start with?
2007-01-18 02:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by M'lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't know your situation or what led to it. If she has no interest in continuing the marriage there is nothing you can do. If she is willing to go to counselling with you then go go go.
2007-01-18 02:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL HER AND TAKE HER OUT FOR DINNER AND ROMANCE HER BUY HER A CARD AND TELL HER ALL THE THINGS YOU JUST SAID TO US AND MORE. IN FACT BUY 30 CARDS AND SEND ONE TO HER EVERY DAY. PROVE YOUR LOVE TO HER. NOT JUST ON THE PHONE
2007-01-18 02:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by that girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out and talk with her spend time with her and your kids tell her u want to work things out
2007-01-18 02:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by daytona_girl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋