i really wish i had girls or a girlfriend, i had an online relashionship that ended a short time ago with a?

Question

girl in canada, she was 19 and i got really close to her in that year...but i made the mistake of being to clingy and obsessive/ possessive with her. i felt we established a relashionship even over the net and even though im 29. but i made the mistake of sulking at her asking her all the time is she seeing any boys, then eventually she admitted to it, she gave to guys head at her house, i was deeply upset. she even told me she would come to the uk to see me...now i keep wonder what she is doing..& the realisation is, i couldnt have a girlfriend with the psychological probs ive got right now...plus i live in small flat with not alot of possessions, what girl would want me?? she was the sort of girl i want to, pale white skin, chubby& plump, pretty sexy face....now my imagination keeps torturing me wondering what shes doing...i imagine her now on a canadian afternoon in hamilton, where she lives, at say, 2:15pm, its grey drizzly there, shes taken the day off work & shes gettin porked

porked my a young 19 year old stud skateboarder type dude...those are the type of friends she had.....and im gutted. she even told me that she did this with one of her friends, so this scenario is not made up...and im here in a lonely old flat in england struggling with psychological probs, missin out big time. and she probally gettin porked by someone

how do i come to terms with the fact i havent got a girlfriend right now and get over it?

Answer 1

Well, you didn't ask a question. Just vented out. But I understand. I fell in love with a guy long distance. Stuff happened and we had to part. But he still carries a piece of my heart. Sorry it didn't work out for you. Long distance is hard and both people have to be willing to work at it. Sorry....

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yeah, um, you need to let that go. First of all, the age discrepancy would have prevented any real relationship, no matter what you guys thought. You just wouldn't have been able to connect on the same level. And her 'messing around' isn't about you, its about her. No 19 year old girl wants to be practically married to someone she's never met.

Your flat has nothing to do with your girl problems. Its the fact that you're letting your flat bother you is your problem. I'm sorry, but most girls really arn't as money-centric as people think. Its all about confidence. One of my best friends lived in a cave for a summer because he was homeless, and carried all his posessions around with him. He got more girls- and still does- then any guy i know. And you can't blame it on looks, either. Thanks to a genetic disorder, he has only a few teeth, and no hair. He just dosen't let it bother him, so the girls flock to him. Gain some confidence, stop dating girls online and start looking for a girl your own age, in person, and you may be able to find one. After all, you said you like chubby girls.. its sad to say, but a good number of chubby girls have low self esteem. Why not find one and start building confidence together? The trick is to look at a girl like a human being first and foremost, instead of as a GIRL. You'll get used that way. Some girls like to be put up on a pedestal and treated like princesses, but it gets boring quickly. Make a few female friends and see what happens.

And your psychological problems- like what? I'm depressed, and I know the trick to that one. Unless its a serious problem, a little self-discipline goes a long way. Its like having a cold- you're sick. Try this. Acknowledge your problem to yourself. Ie "I've got depression, and thats why I want to sit on my couch and eat cookies all day instead of going out. Its a chemical imbalance in my brain, and I need to fight that." After all, what do you do when your getting over a cold? Stay in bed until you feel 100%, or go out anyway? If you force yourself to be happy and act normally instead of brooding and feeling miserable, you will feel better over time. The nerves in your brain 'get used to' forming bonds with one another to make you experience a certian emotion. Over time, the pathway that spells 'happiness', or 'depressed', becomes more defined and permanent, so its actually physically easier for you to feel that emotion then any other. The body takes the easiest way of doing something, so when it produces emotion, the most defined pathway is what you'll experience. If you force yourself to feel something else, over time, that pathway will become the more defined one. Think of it like building muscle. Lifting something heavy is hard at first, but as you strenghten that muscle, it becomes easier, because your body is getting used to it.

Answer 4

probably by going out there in the real world and finding yourself a REAL girlfriend.. and btw it doesn't really matter if you've got few possessions.. it's not like girlfriends are to be bought..

Answer 5

im sorry about youre relationship. i have tosay that you cant tak youre self outr of the game there are more girls out there waiting for guy like u to show up on their doorstep