this lady at my job is (supposedly) in a severe financial situation and she is telling me that she needs to come up with $1800.00 to pay all her back month's rent. She crys all the time to me and stuff like that, I'm about to write her check....should I?
2007-01-18 02:03:27 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
NO, You should ( if you are willing to give her that much money then why not go to the lady's landlord with her and see if they can't work out a payment plan to get her caught up).
Giving her the money will not solve the problem ( maybe momentarily it will but she needs to learn how to manage her money) Get to the root of her money problems. Where does all her paycheck go?????? There are a lot of places that will help you learn to manage your money and put you on a budget.
I would not write her a check but I would go and try to help her.
Buy some groceries, maybe pay the electric/gas bill but never give cash.
She could go to her Church and ask for help.
2007-01-18 02:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Difficult. I've been in the same situation on both ends actually. Once A buddy of mine had the opportunity of a life time but needed $2000 to do it. Had no way of raising the money and I had it so I gave it to him. I never expected to see it again and I was right. The opportunity for him paid off and he's living in Europe now.
Recently, money is very tight and to keep my home, I had to turn to my friends for some help. I found out pretty quick who my real friends are when push comes to shove.
Your answer is in your heart. If you have it and are comfortable with never getting it back, you'll be doing a great thing. Your help will mean the world to this person and although you may never get the money back, you just maybe getting a friend who will enrich your life more than money can.
I wish the world had more people like you. We'd be far better off.
2007-01-18 02:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you can afford to possibly give away $1800.00 you may never see again, I would say no. If you can afford to be this charitable, I would find out who the landlord is and see if the story is true. If it is and you want to help, I would pay the landlord directly and obtain a receipt with your name on it as paying and her name on it as to what you're paying for. I would also get a promissory note from her. That way, if she can later pay you back, but "forgets" about you. You have a good leg to stand on to get your money back in a small claims judgment.
2007-01-18 02:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. People are very adept anymore at conning others into parting with their money. You honestly do not know how she got into the situation she claims to be in or what she actually plans to use the money for once she would sucker you out of it. She could be on drugs, a compulsive gambler or a shopaholic.
If she needs help there are agencies she can go to. Unlike you, they will check to make sure that she is being honest about her need and will help her accordingly.
Do NOT give her money.
2007-01-18 02:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait, stop, think it out. First, how in the heck did she get so far behind? Will she ever be able to repay you?
For me.....I would not loan her a dime. It sounds like a personal problem that needs to be handled in some other way. Be supportive and offer solutions but $1800.00???? No way.
2007-01-18 02:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by sideways 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if they hold the mortgage to your home. Other than that, NO WAY! If she needs to come up with that kind of money, she has to find a solution that does not involve your money. What happens next month if she comes to you again? Are you in a finiancial situation to fix her problems every time? One thing is to lend a person a few dollars if they are in a bind, but $1800 is a very huge amount.
2007-01-18 02:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Alexandriagal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never, it will never end. Once you allow this type of person to take advantage, they will again and again. She probably has some reason for not having the money in the first place, such as not being able to stop spending or gambling or drinking etc. She should be made to get help and suffer through her financial difficutlies. I call it "Life Experiences" when it take a good dose of "bad luck" to teach the lesson.
2007-01-18 02:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by MT C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have $1800.00 to just throw away don't give it to her. You will never see it again. If she won't pay her rent why should she pay you? Some people make bad choices and have to pay for it. Don't be one of them.
2007-01-18 02:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by PRS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my older friend lost his money like that.
The same exact situation. A girl she has known for 2-3 years kept weeping to him about the money. Eventually gave it to her and she took off and never came back(she was a con-artist/he's broke because of it).
What exactly is she going to spend that $1800 on?
When is she going to or able to return it?
If you want to take the risk, go ahead.
If you don't, tell her that you're having trouble with money too.
2007-01-18 02:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by cruel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should even though you feel like you should help her. I think if you do give her the money you should have her pay you back. You should get a legal court document/contract that says she will pay you back. Remember its not your fault she is in trouble. she make sure she isn't using you because you are so nice.
2007-01-18 02:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by pimp69happyboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋