l'd like drugs, techniques, anything just to forget.
2007-01-18 01:58:56 · 13 answers · asked by benedictadjei 1 in Health ➔ Alternative Medicine
Grief is the price we pay for loving. Don't make forgetting your goal--make remembering without pain your goal. Remember the good times and cherish them and stay focused on knowing that you will experience happiness again. I know that doesn't make it any better right now, but keep that thought as the light at the end of the tunnel you are looking through right now. As far as drugs or alcohol goes, those things have NEVER made anyone in your situation feel better. In fact, it usually makes it worse. You will simply have a hangover AND painful memories. It gets better--I promise. Why should you believe me? Because we have, or will, all experienced loss that is gut-wrenching and life will go on and it will get better and you will learn from the experience. And I only know too well that these seems like empty words to you now,but--I promise.
2007-01-19 14:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to heal from this is to rediscover and work on yourself from the inside. Eat healthy and excercise. Walk or jog like you never did before it will increase those endorphines and leave you feeling really good inside. Ask yourself do you really like the routine you have? Is it based on something with this person. Make a new routine. Then after consistantly making you a priority you will be able to sit down and say, is this relationship one that will ever change (remember, you can not change other people and their decissions)? You then have to be open to change. If you have to deal with this person daily how can you deal with them with out letting that negative energy stick to you and affect your quality of life. Try to remember that we all have free will and make our own choices. Those choices are made for a variety of reasons, things and people do change and that is also something beyond our control. Focus on what you can control, you and your path of happiness. Let your higher power take you there. Don't fall into desperation and vindication because that is negative energy that will also have a negative impact on you and their life. Live and let live. Find acceptance. Surround yourself with some good friends and family that you can call, e-mail, or visit and cry, yell, or just have them rub your head asap when needed at ANY TIME (these moments of weakness have no scheduled time). Good luck, sweetie. xo.
2007-01-18 11:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by JP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant wipe someone from your mind. However try and think of nice things like kittens and blue sky and sunshine when you feel down. There is a book by Paul McKenna called How to mend a broken heart. It has some techniques for getting over an ex. Get it from the library if ou cant buy it.
2007-01-21 15:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Miss RoZy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you try two things:
1). Desensitise yourself.
Lie down relaxed and imagine the situation of seeing the person.
Take deep breaths and "know" you are safe & in control.
Do this several times and the image should lose some of its charge.
The reality will become easier too.
2). Try a new alternative therapy. You can download the free manual and do it for yourself for free!
EFT (Emotional Freedom Therapy).
Full details at:
http://www.emofree.com/
It is like accupuncture for the emotions and really works!
2007-01-20 20:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Steve J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about someone else you see everyday that gives you good memories. Go to the people that give you those good memories. I have this problem as well and when I'm faced with it, i just worry about the people who I know care about me and would look out for me.
People do give bad memories sometimes, but think of those who give you the good memories in life.
2007-01-18 10:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must be very hard for you. I would try and focus on something positive and stick to it. Try not to let you emotions cloud your mind. Get yourself involved in other activities anything, just to keep your head in a positive attitude. I know its easier to say than do. Wouldnt a wonder drug that erases certain memories be handy in some cases. Hope you do ok.
2007-01-18 10:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals you'll find someone else. you just got to get on with things. drugs will only make you forget temporarily and then there are to many side affects for it being worth taking them. everyone has problems or have been hurt and they get over it they have to and you will too. so dont do anything stupid.
2007-01-18 11:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Shannyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. Not usually how life works. You are gonna have to accept that it happened, there's nothing that you can do, there's nothing that you could have done, you did the best you could do at that time, everything happens for a reason. Find some level of acceptance and move on with your life.
Or, move to Tibet...
2007-01-18 10:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal. But try to focus on other things What is the memory if you mind me asking? email me direct.
2007-01-18 10:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by sunshinesmoothoperator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real way is to find someone else,then you can be friends in time.
2007-01-18 10:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Alfred E. Newman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋