2007-01-18 01:58:23 · 12 answers · asked by neutral 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You were supposed to grow old together, and now you are not, someone is bound to be hurt by that.
2007-01-18 02:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you carry all this baggage for this length of time and probably just kept accepting it instead of trying to fix it, your mind and body just comes to a point and shuts down.
If only one person is constantly trying to fix things and the other partner just merely exists, you really are living a separate life for all those years.
You lose hope and your spirit is weak.
One day you realize that you do not have much time to enjoy what is left of your life.
You start taking inventory and see how lonely and empty your life really has been.
It is like you woke up from a 27 year coma and you see things in a different perspective.
You dont hate your partner, you just finally admit that it is your time to take care of you and find comfort and happiness.
When you spend this much time with one person, it is not so easy to forgive.
If you want to reach serenity, you must forgive yourself, and then forgive your spouse.
Dont be a prisoner for the rest of your life.
If you moved on with your life, now is the time for you to let go of all your bitterness and focus on healing within.
2007-01-18 11:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my yes! Twenty-seven years is a long time to be with someone. U have invested most of your life with this person and now it's all over. No one could ever replace the good times and the bad times. There must have been a lot of good times for this marriage to last this long. My question is why did this marriage end? What could be so bad that it was given up on after being married for so long? Surely there are children involved. They must be devistaded. To have their parents divorce after so long of being married. How is this going to affect them about sticking with their spouce? Take my word for it this will affect them very badly. My daughter has no faith in marriage anymore and my son could not handle it to the point that I had to get him professional help. If this is u or your parents please think again and try to work things out. Seek professional help then maybe u or they can give it another chance and get remarried. I wish u all the best and good luck.
2007-01-18 10:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Shery W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because forgiveness is a choice and a very hard one to make and o if there is alot of pain that has been caused in the marriage.... But if you choose to forgive and not hold on to bitterness and resentment this is a great healing tool for getting past the pain and moving on with your life.... Sometimes people need counseling too!
2007-01-18 10:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of hurt and backstabbing happen in the course of 27 years. Some things are just hard to forgive.
2007-01-18 10:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's 27 years of stuff that needs to be forgiven. It takes time.
2007-01-18 10:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
someone gets hurt by the breakup, and someone wanted it, if we were with someone for years,and were in love, and they choose to leave us, we so get hurt, and we really don't forgive them for leaving us. depends if the breakup was caused by adultery, adultery is something that usually redefines how we see that person, and if our life got ruined because of someones bad choices, we aren't going to forgive easily.
2007-01-18 10:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A question for the ages...there will never be a specific answer to this question you ask.
Each person is totally different. They all have different reasons.
2007-01-18 10:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes all the festering and resentment that buildup over that long period of time is not easily resolved.
2007-01-18 10:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ynot! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure.....I guess whenever there is a break up someone is bound to get hurt and then they take it out on the other one....it's sad....
2007-01-18 10:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋