i wouldn't know whether it is infatuation or not that i have with my ex.. but i broke it off with him for another guy, Tom. Tom and I got along just fine until after a month n then we always argue because he always think negative of me. After 6 months, he stop doing those things and we are better now, but within that time i started missing my ex. And i realize that he was the one for me... I don't mean to compare.. but he made me feel special and everything.. Tom never put out an effort to make me feel that way but i forgive him cuz i know that there are some guys who doesnt really know how to. In all honesty, I do want to get back with my ex * n i kno he wants to get back with me too* but the problem is.. I can't.. I want to break it off with tom first and then take a time off (a LOONGGG one).. I just don't know how to do it because we havent argue or anything... Sorry if i burden you guys with the story, but i just need to know what would u do or say...
2007-01-18 01:48:38 · 5 answers · asked by Lost n confuse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you in advance
2007-01-18 01:49:04 · update #1
you left your ex to be with Tom then Tom was being negative about you... Something attracted you to Tom enough to leave your ex Tom,s negativity may have been to do with you leaving your ex for him as he might think you could do the same to him...
You are missing your ex because you are greiving for that relationship its a natural process, we all greive for what we once had.. But you say you dont want to go back to your ex that he wants back with you, just knowing he wants back with you could be the underlying problem...
To be fair to Tom tell him its over you need your own space and its not fair to him to carry on under pretence explain to him how you feel hopefully he will accept and understand and see your being honest with him which you should be... Always be honest with yourself about things to know what you want from life and where your going there will more men in your life when that happens dont rush in and definetley dont compare people as no two are the same...Relationships will be what you make them and want from them you have to work at them and have give and take and always be honest with each other along with trust...Remember its your life have in it only what you truly want and dont feel guilty about your decisions... Tell Tom the truth he will respect you for it you dont need to explain everything as it can cause to much hurt dont live a lie to please others... Good luck be strong and positive..
2007-01-18 02:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Because you sound in mature. If you are young. it is OK. You will became mature as time goes by. Don't be in a hurry for a permanent relationship. It will come when you are ready for it. Good luck.
2007-01-18 01:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you want to break up with him that much you have to, because it isn't fair to him, or you to be in the relationship like that. You need to talk to him, tell him and explain things to him without making him feel badly.
2007-01-18 02:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how hard this must be... and im guessing that you dont want him to know about the actual problem thats why you are having a hard time figuring it out.
sorry i wouldn't know what to do either
2007-01-18 01:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by eeekkk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with yourself and with him...if you don't want to be with Tom then break it off.....good luck
2007-01-18 01:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋