ok i have a problem we live at my mom's right now long story and she has lime wire well yesterday i saw that there was 4 porn viedoes downloaded and she ( my mom) has told us not to download movies or anything so i asked my husband and he kept saying over and over again that he did not do it. the only problem is he is the only one that would get on here. and he did the samething at out old place and lied about it to. what should i do. thanks for the help.
been married for 5 yrs now
2007-01-18 01:34:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just so you know i can not remove lime wire cause this is my mom's computer.
2007-01-18 01:40:52 · update #1
i know how you feel, i have had friends whose marriages have ended because of porn. guys don't have to be addicted to it they choose to be. they also have the choice to do something about it. theres a reason married men feel ashamed about being caught with porn, because its rubbish and they shouldn't be making their wives feel like sh** just because they feel they need to watch it! how would they feel if we sat around watching this trash on our own and ignoring or comparing them to the men in these stupid movies?? you need to sit down and talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel when hes watching this cr** and that you want him to get some couseling to help him deal with this issue. i'm sick of men hiding behind the stereotype that thats how they are wired so let them be!! heck no!! they need to grow up and stop hiding!!!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-18 01:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He obviously did it - tell you mum some story about a bug in the computer - get a bottle of champagne - lock your selves in the bedroom and watch the porm together - everyone likes porn baby!! He is only lying cause he thinks it something to be ashamed of - if he is addicted to porn then this is not good but if he just likes a look now and then whats the problem? as long as he is not out poking it to anyone else.
2007-01-18 01:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Islandgirlss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does his interest in porn bother that much? If not, let him know that it is not that big a deal. Have him save the downloads on a thumb drive and delete all signs of the download on limewire and your mom won't have to be involved.
Since you have been married for five years and you know that he has viewed porn, it does not sound like it bothers you. Let him know that it is not a big deal and he will not be so inclined to hide it from you.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-18 01:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For five years and he still cant be honetst with u. If its just the lieing thing that ur mad about then tell him it hurts u when he lies and after 5yrs. All u want to know is if he did it and thats it. u dont care about the fact that he likes that stuff. Yall need to be open with each other. Cause if he likes that stuff then u need to find out more and if u r ok with it. I mean if u know its him then just tell him he cant get on anymore bc someone is doing that. I mean if he did it once b4 then he really does have a problem that u two need to work out fast.
2007-01-18 01:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by tinamg_18 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Woman need to just accept that dudes like porn. The same way woman like soap operas. It a harmless guilty pleasure. Stop making such a big deal about this stuff.
2007-01-18 02:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows you don't like him looking at porn so he is going to lie. You are not his mother so you can't treat him as a kid. You already know that he did it. You need to explain to him the boundries of respect at your mothers home and her wishes. Men love to look at porn. If they feel threatened that the issue will create an arguement, then they will lie about it. You have to make him feel secure so he can talk about things. If porn is something you can't accept, then you need to divorce him and move on. It sounds as though it is a part of him and always will be.
2007-01-18 01:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first off the reason he's downloading it might be because he wants some.. or some more... or... well you get the point.. but ummm don't neccisarily blaim him.. you know how sneaky grandparents can be! >.> <.< and maybe he regrets the fact that he did it if he did do it so if he did it then don't yell at him cause it may just be that he doesn't want to constatly ask you for sex and just wants you to do it when you want / have time to so he could be trying to do you a favor and allow you to sit in seats when you need to..
2007-01-18 01:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Blake K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONE VITAL THING IN MARRIAGE IS COMMUNICATION. YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN WITH HIM AND LET HIM KNOW YOUR CONCERNS, IF HE RESPECTS AND LOVES YOU ENOUGH, HE WILL WORK ON IT, SOMETIMES PORN IS AN ADDICTION, GIVE HIM THE HELP HE NEEDS, IF IT PERSISTS, THEN YOU NEED TO START MAKING SOME MOVE, WATCHING PORN OR READING PORN MAGS IS ADULTERY, IT SAYS SO IN THE BIBLE. Matthew 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already commited adultery with her in his heart"
LYING IS A NO-NO IN ANY RELATIONSHIP.
2007-01-18 02:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by AV8R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up at the dinner table. Tell your mother you know you didn't download the porn and your husband says he didn't do it either although he is known to lie and do things like that and that only leaves one other person in this room that could of done it.
2007-01-18 02:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be firm and say to him that you don't believe him and recall when he was at the old place. Tell him no more porn or both of you can watch it together .. . your choice. It can be pretty HOT.
2007-01-18 01:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋