2007-01-18 01:28:53 · 13 answers · asked by Dominic W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a friend that got married at 18 and she is still married 13 1/2 years later with 3 kids. They are doing great.
I suggest you get some pre-marital counseling before getting married (I think no matter the age you should get pre-marital counseling) to talk about kids, finances, future goals etc. Your pastor should be able to provide this or a counselor in the area. The number one and two thing people get divorced over is infidelity & money fights. So get the counseling so you will start your life together on the right foot. Also don't get married just to have a wedding, marriage is for life!!
2007-01-18 01:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by mldjay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...what's the hurry anyway?
I have been there and no matter what anyone tells you people do change, hopefully together and in sync.
More importantly however at the age of 20 no matter how mature your are, you never have enough experiences to draw on when the first crisis hits you.
My advice, live together wait a few more years, if you really love each other it will last and you will get married anyway
2007-01-18 02:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by bumble bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 seems a little young. but yeah, do it if you guys can afford to make it out on your own. see what the two of you are making, create a budget and if its feasible then GO FOR IT. but if both of oyu work part time at the mall and live with your parents and have never paid a single bill in your life then wait. love is a lifetime thing...so a few years wouldn't kill the relationship, only make it go stronger and deeper. i am 25....and i almost got married at 20...but i made a choice that i don't regret now...i didn't marry him...we were both in college, working part time and living with our parents...we didn't have the money to make it...and we didn't last in a relationship either.plus i believe people grow up so much between 20 and 25. marriage is more than just a big wedding ceremony, its your EVERYDAY life with someone else...you have to make it work EVERYDAY for the REST of your lives. good luck!
2007-01-18 01:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO and this is coming from a person that got married at age 20 and i really wished that i have not i mean i love my husband and all but if i could do it over i would have not got married at so a young age so trust me DONT DO IT
2007-01-18 02:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one else can really answer that but you. However we can give you a few things to ponder. Have you accomplished your goals thus far as far as your education goes? Do you foresee anything happening in the relationship that may cause you to regret your decision? The choice is yours. Love is grand but you have to be realistic. Take the "love blinders" off and think about it for a while.
2007-01-18 01:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking, because you really know better. NO. You get married because you are ready to settle down, and start a life long relationship with someone. Don't get married now, you haven't even experienced life yet. You'll be 21 soon, do you really want to be tied down?
2007-01-18 01:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that all you have? Love? How about a job with health ins. or other things that would support a family?
If all you have is love, then no, I don't think you should get married. Love doesn't pay the bills.
2007-01-18 01:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well if your in love and he or she is in love with you. and your absolutly sure this is the person you want to live with and see everyday and have babies with then pupose. If she says yes then plan the wedding for six months to a year and if u werent sure the truth will come out by then. trust me in that amout of thime u'll see more and see what ur marrying into and see if u want that. Live together to bc that helps.
2007-01-18 01:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by tinamg_18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to you and if you feel you are ready for marriage and a lifetime commitment or not... Follow your heart and i do recommend premarriatal counseling too to help you make sure.
2007-01-18 02:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both through school and have good jobs. Otherwise forget it or you will end up on welfare with a houseful of children.
2007-01-18 01:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋