Explain: It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.?

Answer 1

it means that the love that gives us butterflys in our tummys and makes us act like silly kids fades over time and if you are really lucky, you are best friends and the love develops into something much deeper and more rewarding.....if you are not great friends, then the marriage is lost.....

Answer 2

I just found that if I try to share his interests and become involved, we are happier together. I also found that I actually enjoy participating with him in his hobbies, his work and in the things he's thinking about. It makes us closer and gives us plenty to talk about and do together. I make sure too to give him plenty of space. He has his work room, where I do not intrude unless asked. He is my closest friend and the person I most want to spend time with - ANY time.

In my first marriage, we were not really friends and our differences were many. We spent time together with the kids, but usually went our separate ways during the day. After several years we were pretty much living separate lives and this made it easy (I guess) for him to cheat. I never stopped loving him, but we just didn't have anything in common except the kids.

I guess the moral of this story is to be connected as friends AND lovers and to share most everything together, even if it's not much fun at first.

Answer 3

It can be both and also a lack of communication and trust and alot of other things can make unhappy marriages.... Selfishness and not selflesness is another factor too. Look at it this way marriage is what you choose to make of it and you choose to be happy in your marriage or not.

Answer 4

I think people forget that a relationship is hard work....when dating we make our best effort....we engage in conversation.....we're eager to talk to the person ....find out how their day was......in any long term relationship.......these things get overlooked and the other person can be taken for granted......we get busy with work....kids.....everything else.....and we think plopping next to our partner in bed at night half asleep is commitment......one day you wake up next to someone you don't know.....have nothing in common with.....aside from paying bills and kids......and you haven't held hands in at least 5 years......if we put such little effort into a beginning relationship it would never survive......Our lives do get busy....but is 5-10 minutes to care and ask about how the person you chose to love too much to ask when they come home......... and a date once / twice a month maybe more......we are conned into believing love is an emotion we have no control over.....but love is respect love is an action......and it is a choice......just my 2 cents....but hey you asked me for it

Answer 5

To be with someone for a long time you have to be good friends. There are times through a marriage that the whole lovey dovey feeling just disappears but if you're friends you'll take the time to restore that feeling.

Answer 6

Lack of friendship, my soon to be ex,was my best friend. She just didn't see are treat me as hers