we both are in love since 2 years but we have this age differnec and caste deifference too, i hav e completed my studies and not its time to tell everything to my parents , i want their responce to be positive . how should i can convince them for my marriage?
2007-01-18 01:08:09 · 27 answers · asked by rukiya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was reading your reply in a similar question about age difference between two lovers & what I feel you know the answer how to convince your parents about this issue & caste issue....!!!! Just tell them your real feelings & I know no parent will say know if they find real love between their child with a guy who maybe having age difference or caste or religion or economic status difference. Parents are only thinking of the wellbeing of their kids whom they have given birth & up brought them to this stage of marriage. Let me tell you LOVE ALWAYS WIN & NO ONE CAN STOP REAL LOVERS TO UNITE. Don’t believe me???? I got my daughter married yesterday to her lover after five years of their love affair; need not have to tell you anything more now!!!! OK.
2007-01-18 03:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age and caste are powerful factors which weigh high and heavy with parents in some parts of the world. Unmindful of this, several young persons fall in love and also go in for marriage and get all procedures including the legal ones in place. They would have problems in the initial stages and acceptance would come only very slowly. Until then, they have to exercise lot of restraint and observe great patience and courage. However, support form select friends and even some relatives could be a redeeming element.
The story of compliant young persons is different. they do as Romans do and follow the path of least resistance. Many persons belong to this category.
Now, the success rates in both cases not very sure numbers and both seem to be having an almost similar profile.
In fact, true success of the spousal relationship depends on the quality of bond and a caring outlook in the long run.
You can always take your mother/sister into confidence and build up your case on true credentials outlined above. You can add your personal ethos to make it very persuasive. But please note that this has to be bilateral and you need to make this sure. The prime anxiety of your parents would be the built in instability of relationship in such cases. So, work with sincerity and move with cautious persuasion. Success may come your way. Good luck.
2007-01-18 09:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by braj k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to convince...they will either approve or they won't. You tell them that you are happy, and see what happens.
Saying that....can I offer a bit of advice...think this threw very carefully...I married a man at age 19 that is 8 years older than I am....and I am still married to him, but honestly if I could go back and make that decision now, knowing what I know now, I would not have married a man this much older than I am, once he hit 40, and I was 32 it was like we were living in 2 different generations, and it has been this way since.
2007-01-18 09:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey makeup ur mind tht ur parents are not goin to accept him.n as far as i feel forget abt the caste but the age is something which is not at all acceptable.dont expect a +ve response. may be if u are taking a decision against ur parents u will hv to loose them forever.n personally i advice u tht a difference of tht age wont work though i feel sorry for saying this
2007-01-18 09:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you make them realize that you are aware there may be "difficulties' as you both age. I have 8 years on my wife of 31 years, nothing would change our decision we made. I am 58 now and my wife is just turning 50, I'm run out of 'steam' a little faster than she does. Otherwise, only you can follow YOUR heart.
2007-01-18 09:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by pompanopete0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 15 years older than me and we did not worry about what her parents thought. Since we were both adults when we met, our age difference did not matter so much. It sounds like you are in the same situation and you should introduce the man that you love to them and after they meet him tell them his age.
Once they see the two of you as compatible, the age difference will not matter to them.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-18 09:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this same sitation. Show ur parents how happy ur and that this is not just a fling its been going on for awhile. they may not understand or like it at first but once they see how happy ur they should embrace it and want whats best for u. In the long run its not their decision it what makes u happy.
2007-01-18 09:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not at all a problem because age diff and caste diff are not needed for a real love it just needs two innocent and lovable hearts i think u people have this u people just believe in ur love if it is true one without any lust....then that itself make u people as a lifwe partners........first u people plz be confident on ur part but dont disappoint ur parents also because their blessings is the essence of a gud married life.........................
2007-01-18 10:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by sakthivel s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not underage then it shouldnt matter. Let your folks know that you have been dating a while and he treats you wonderfully and makes you very happy. Suggest that you guys get togather for dinner so they can meet him. Then after a week or so after they got use to the idea that he is in your life....pop it on them saying he asked you to marry him and you said yes.
Good luck and CONGA-RATS!
2007-01-18 09:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love has no barriers of age, caste, etc. Educate your parents. Each one must teach one. In your case you must teach two people namely your mother and your father.
2007-01-19 07:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by Nagesh S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋