how long can I go without sex ...?

Question

I am married for abt 10 yrs. For last year or so my hubbys equipment has stopped functioning. Viagra helps a bit but leaves him with upset stomach for days to follow. My hormones are leaving me devastated sometimes. I have 3 kids who love their dad dearly and I would hate to see their smiles fade. I am a family person. what should I do? what do you suggest?

Answer 1

I'm sure that there are alternatives to Viagra and the like. You will need to explore this as a couple so that he doesn't feel it's his "fault". There are a lot of new products and techniques and treatments available now. If he is reasonably healthy, there is no reason why he shouldn't have a normal sex life.

If none of these work to your satisfaction, I would find some other ways (together) of sexual stimulation and satisfaction, including the use of a vibrator or other sex toy. He must be made to understand that you love him and want him to participate in this with you. He probably feels less than a man because of his problem and may be pretty angry about it, but maybe if you show him that you don't consider it a real obstacle to sexual satisfaction, he will come to adjust and find other ways to enjoy you and himself.

Answer 2

I happen to agree with everyone else . Get some toys and have him help you that way. But just as importantly lets not forget what your husband must be going through. This can't be easy for him either, knowing he is not able to perform. Have him or both of you talk to his Dr. He needs your support just as much as you need your hormones calmed. There is nothing wrong with you taking care of yourself. Let him watch, you never know what might happen. Most of all love him, don't push him away.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

There are other ways for him to pleasure you and toys that you can get. Be understanding with him, make certain that any encounter that you two set up is stress free. Try and give him a massage or something to help him relax. I am not saying stress in the bedroom or life in general is the problem but being calm will help.

There are other medicines out there other than the big V. Have him talk with his doctor about other options.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Sweetie, just becasue he can't get his doesn't mean you can't get yours,

have him work his magic down there, and get a good ole vibrator.

let him use it on ya. or let him watch you use it on your self,

and maybe you could give him something for the upset stomache, like nexium or mylanta, treat the symptoms associated with the upset stomache before he gets one?Levitra and hormone therapy has been known to be helpful,
and it would help us to know th specifics of why he has this problem.

have you tried that?

Meg

Answer 5

my mother works in a urologist office,so please make an appointment at the urologist,asap.no need to take viagra,if there are side effects.for those who cannot take it,there is an implant that can be used,implanted under the skin,that will provide firmness when it is needed.it doesnt hurt,many men who cant take viagra/cialis because of heart problems get the implnt insted.it has saved many marriages,according to my mother.please see a urologist-b4 u know it,u will both be back on track!it takes an operation,but it is well worth it to gain normal functioning.best of luck to u both.ps-most people think a urologist is just for bladder/kidney problems,but actually one of the most important parts of their job is the treatment of male erectile dysfunction.they are experts ,and they can and will help u.

Answer 6

There are little brown pills on the market that are like viagra - stronger - and less side effects. My mate Eddie was paralysed in an accident and he uses them. He's been known to give them to us from time to time too!! They are known as the 'weekenders' but I can't remember their real pharmaceutical name. They get their nickname because if you take one, you'll not be leaving the house the whole weekend!!

Answer 7

except searching ahead to for my virgininty to bypass i'd sya the present hiatus of round 9 months. reason i became searching ahead to finish therapeutic of an episiotomy scar- following childbirth or maybe with the reality that now healed husband refused to bypass and purchase condoms - I had continually treated the protection and needed a spoil from hormones etc so have left the ball firmly in his court docket.

Answer 8

Cheating is out of the question. So lets look at our options.

There are other forms of sex that do not include a penis and are just as satisfying. Oral and hand job (your husband's hand on you) There are also many varieties of toys that can be used to simulate penis to vagina sex. There are strap ons that can be comfortable worn by the male. (vacu-lock) So you see with a little creativity your sex life can still be alive.

I hope you two have found out why his soldier will not salute? In general, it is my understanding, that it is suppose to continue to work throughout his life.

Answer 9

tell him to try some different medication they have more than Viagra and get yourself a toy he can use on you or you can you too. You married him for better or worse right or did you forget that part of your vowels

Answer 10

I would support him as much as possible in terms of his health.. But you can go forever without sex. If you need to have an orgasm you should get yourself a nice vibrator and use that. There's nothing wrong with masturbation and there is nothing wrong with having it in a relationship. Whether you tell him is entirely up to you, but I would suggest you talk about it a bit as well..