Been married now for 5 years.
We used to have sex all the time and both of us enjoyed it.
Now we hardly ever have it even though I try it on with her all the time.
How can I get her to want to have sex with me again?
2007-01-18 00:16:01 · 19 answers · asked by Homer Baby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh yes and she constantly teases me too and makes me even more randy.
But then as usual it leads to no where.
2007-01-18 00:21:04 · update #1
Ask her why the frequency has dropped off. Sometimes it's something that you never thought of. One of my friends had to tell her bf his sudden and dramatic weight gain was "too much".
2007-01-18 00:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has changed in the last 5 years? Do you have children now? Did she start a more demanding job? Are you just asking for sex or are you trying to woo her like you did in the beginning? Are you asking when she's teasing? or waiting until she puts up the last load of laundry at 11 in the evening? If you really can't think of a good reason why this all might have changed, then you might want to communicate your thoughts with your wife. She may be the one to shed light on the situation.
2007-01-18 01:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her like loads over the next week and get her some sexy underwear or something and get her some flowers and on the note part say how much you love her etc. and say that you want to show her how much you love her. She should get the message.
Okay, but remember, just because you aren't having sex, doesn't mean it's the end of the world, yeah? Okay, it spices things up a little, but don't depend on it too much.
Hope I've helped mate. Good luck.
2007-01-18 00:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by TheAprilPuppet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally wen a woman does this its because she dnt feel wanted or sexy by her partner like she used 2 all those years ago. when she gets in hav her a big bubble bath ready with candles. even betta, bath 2getha, u talk so much more in the bath. nice candle lit meal ready 4 wen she gets out, maybe a little pressie. pamper her an show her u still love her an fancy her. call her by names like sweetheat and darling all nyt. that shd get u a nyt of passion. if all fails an she still dnt wanna hav sex wi u, talk 2 her an ask her if anythin is wrong. maybe she has a problem that she dont feel she can talk 2 u about.
2007-01-18 00:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by debs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh thats tough, but where there's a will there's a way. Lateral thinking. You need to find some way to get HER to want to - you pushing it all the time is probably making the problem worse. She KNOWS you want to, so do the opposite - never mention it & just be the perfect partner in other ways, and hopefully, eventually... Its a hard one though. (No pun of course). The teasing is pretty out of order though - I don't get that.
2007-01-18 00:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by stavarondo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have been married a while it easy to fall into a comfort zone.
The key is romance, why not have a weekend away or go out for a romantic meal together.
Cook her a nice meal, eat by candlelight, buy her lingerie. Make her feel wanted.
I have been married 7 years.
2007-01-18 00:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her; there may be an underlying reason why she's gone off it. Try being romantic; surprise her, make her feel special. It is true that the brain is the most powerful sex organ. If all of that fails try her sister.
2007-01-18 00:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by mallybb298 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can try to tease her back
or try some sex games little things to get ur juices flowin
something to tickle her just a bit and make her want more
touch her in place u know will make her feel good
look in to girl glamor maginzines they say where our and ur pleasure spots are !!!!!
2007-01-18 00:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, I get turned on when my husband takes on some of the household chores, washing up, laundrey, etc. He only has to do it occassionally and it makes me feel that he appreciates me. Women need to feel appreciated and worthwhile before they can respond in a positive manner, oh and have a shave.
2007-01-18 00:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. stop trying it on with her all the time. treat her as if you just met her, and want to go out with her. Go on dates with her. don't treat her as a wife. treat her as a princess girlfriend. Bring on the romantic side, and then make her feel special. it's guaranteed to work.
Trying it on all the time can get off putting, especially if you don't want it. believe me.
2007-01-18 00:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋