we are going to be gay parents and we dont know what our child should call my partner we dont want our chid to call her by her name and want to know what other parents in the same situation think
2007-01-17 23:52:28 · 24 answers · asked by mez 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well hun, I'm not in the same situation, but I would like to offer my opinion. I think that your new bundle of joy should call you and your partner both...Mommy. A person doesn't necessarily have to give birth to be a mommy. Myself, I'm a bisexual woman, but if I were a lesbian, I would want our child to call us both 'mommy'. But, ultimately, the decision is yours. Hope this helps, and congratulations on your little one!
2007-01-18 00:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This seems to be different depending on the family.
I know kids who call one parent by their first name, some that call both Mom or Dad.
I have friends with 3 kids who call one Mom and one Mama.
This will normally develop naturally as the child grows up.
Congrats on your new addition!
2007-01-18 05:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most couples I know use different names for "mother", as that is what you both are. Frankly I'm surprised at the question, I've never heard anyone refer to themselves as "we are going to be gay parents". You are going to be parents, your sexuality has nothing to do with it. Friends of mine use "mom" and "mommy". There are support groups for same gendered parents, you should find one in your area, it would probably be a great support to you.
Blessings on the birth of your child.
2007-01-18 00:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is going to sound really bad but I know a lesbian couple who had the same concern that you have. When their daughter was starting to talk she picked up on the stupid pet names they called each other. One mother is Babe and the other is Sugar.
And the moral of the story is, kids say the darndest things.
2007-01-18 00:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Poor child should have a man around to call Daddy.
Why don't you find somewhere else to play; the previous question you asked on here was about your boyfriend of five years cheating on you.
2007-01-18 02:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by tbear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my chum had lesbian mothers and fathers for a lengthy time period (finally broke up lalalala) her delivery mom, she might want to call mom, mommy, mum, mom ext and the major different she might want to call by technique of her first call, so like mom and Kate or w/e your companions call is. Its no longer that she disrespected the different woman, its in basic terms it truly is what she called her and she or he became comfortable with it.
2016-10-15 09:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I do not have any idea. This is just a little note saying congratulations. I don't know who you are, but you are getting a big mental hug right now. Love your child, love your partner, keep your sense of humor, and good luck.
B
2007-01-18 01:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bacchus 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mom and Mommy...don't confuse the child with gender differences. The child will love you for who you both are. Good Luck!
2007-01-18 00:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by bunnicula 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have heard other use many different names but the one I thought was most endearing was the word Mom, mommy or mama with the first initial of the person they are referring to after it, Mama K, Mama J, Mama H......
2007-01-18 00:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you really think it's better for the child and yourself:mom and mother ,I myself would still prefer:mum Alicia and mum Annabelle.
It's for the child less confusing.
But that's my opinion
I have seen it many times:it works great.
greetings:Rob.xxx
2007-01-18 00:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋