Im merrid almost a week and want to start a family ,but my husband think its t early.?

Question

the reason why i want to start a family is cause i LOVE children & i enjoy being around them they so beautifull & adorable.

Answer 1

This is one of those things that you probably should have discussed BEFORE you got married, but there's no going backwards now.

If one of you isn't ready to start a family yet, then it's a "couple issue". Maybe you can sit down with your new husband and work out a bit of a "plan" for your life. (Granted, things will come up and you'll totally veer away from this plan, but it'll make you feel like you're doing something anyway!)

One final bit of advice...no matter how much you want a child, do NOT "accidentally on purpose" get pregnant. Your husband will resent you and it will NOT be a good scene or healthy for your marriage. You are a part of a COUPLE now, so big decisions like this MUST be made jointly.

Answer 2

A child is the biggest commitment you will make. You cant divorce them if it doesnt work. It is TOO early, trust those of us who have raised kids. Iam a grandma now, and im only 38. My daughter was married 4mo and had a baby, she was pregnant prior to marriage. She cant go anywhere without packing up half the house. Her son is now 10 mo old. He was born 2 mo early, thank god he is fine. You and your husband have the rest of your lives to have children. enjoy being a couple first! Most marriages who are going to fail will do so in the first 5 years. My first did after 4 years. I was then a single mom with a child. I got remarried but its been hell for 18 years dealing with an ex. Make sure this marriage will last and you discuss everything about raising a child, with a counselor in case there may be things not being said. You both have to agree when the time is right, or one of you will resent the other!!! Good Luck

Answer 3

Your husband is right. Get a job at a day care center or preschool as a teacher's aid. You will be surrounded by 10-30 beautiful and adorable children for 6-8 hours a day AND get paid for it. You will be so happy.

Answer 4

there is nothing wrong in you wanting to start a family and there's also nothing wrong with your husband in saying that its too early.. the only solution is that you better talk about your plans.. communication is always the key.. maybe you could meet halfway..

however, you should also enjoy first your life together as newlyweds..

Answer 5

I would suggest you learn the English language first. Then you may be able to pass on some of that knowledge. Merrid. Pitiful, especially with spell check in front of you. On second thought, get your tubes tied.

Answer 6

IT'S ONLY BEEN A WEEK!!!!! ENJOY SOME TIME AS NEWLY WEDS FIRST..... BEFORE JUMPING INTO HAVING KIDS. ARE YOU FINANCIALLY READY? PLAN YOUR FUTURE FIRST THEN CONSIDER HAVING A CHILD.

Kids are adorable but trust me... there are times when things are hectic and you wish you could shove them back into your stomache.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

waiting is a good idea, have fun as a married couple first and then when both of you are ready then you should start, i know babies are the cutest and best thing but sometimes its best to wait. if one isn't ready it will lead to resentment and stress, and that isn't good for newly weds.

Answer 9

let your husband enjoy you for a year or two before you have to cut him off for about three months....You will appreciate this advice later, but you probably dont want to hear it now..

Answer 10

he is right.it IS too early.