Peter and me dont speak for 5yrs we also in this time walk by each other!! Last may out the blue he speaks to me asks to have a drink with me Im wary as to his intentions but eventually meet him...
He is seperated from his wife livingat his sisters we exchange mobile numbers... he calls every day we start going on nights out eventually he spends the night... Im taking it we are having a relationship? he goes to his home for one night dont know why his daughter goes through his phonefinds my number questions him!!!
Next his wife is telling everyone I broke her marriage up split her family up Im a slag etc.. etc.. I phone the wife get the daughter and have words with her point out im not responsible for the break up etc .. etc..
New year he goes back home when he tells me this I say dont phone me or text and next time she puts you out dont be phoning as I wont be used to fill the gap...
They are married 30yrs and he says I dont want to get to involved at home ! Eh a bit late there!
2007-01-17 23:16:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So I ask him what are you playing at she bad mouths me to everyone next you and her are back together.. So you just used me then , He says its not like that, well I say thats exactly how it is!
I tell him look dont phone me you have your wife to talk to there is no need for you to call me!
He is still phoning everyday and making out he is at his sisters again! I havent went out with him but he came round last week unannounced came in sat down with me and the kids as if nothing has happened!
He says he doesnt know what he is doing I said well its simple either you are wit your wife or if your marriage is over then its over but make sure you tell her that and stop going back to her!
Why did you give me the impression we where in a relationship? He never answers I said to him if you decide what you want once and for all then let me know I will not be used or play second best as I dont need to and dont deserve to!!
Am I right to have told it like it ?
2007-01-17 23:27:25 · update #1
Don't have anything else to do with him. He's been married for thrity years, obviously there is a history there. Don't call the wife, don't talk to the daughter and if the guy calls you, don't answer. He is trying to use you for a good time when things are bad with his wife. Don't let him do it. Just cut him out of your life completely.
2007-01-17 23:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a one night stand, no you dont' have a relationship the guy was lonely.
If he was really separated before he saw you you didn't break up the relationship. I just wonder why you talked to the daughter at all. You don't go on the defensive when you do nothing wrong. This almost sounds like a soap opera scenario. Just ignore the garbage and go back to your real life, you don't care about him and you don't care about them so forget it. If he calls again give him the number of the local AA to put on his mobile that should get through to him.
2007-01-18 07:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right and you should keep being smart and next time he comes round shut the door in his face or if he phones put it down it seems hes using you. Are you sure this isn't a regular thing with him by that i mean has he split from his wife before and got him self another girlfriend and why would his daughter be going through his phone seems like theres a pattern there best of luck x x
2007-01-18 07:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are smart to stay out of this I take it you are just venting here on the stupidity of his actions, you know you deserve better than him if you have the cockles to stand up and say don't bother phoning opr texting also, don't get into it and have words with the wifey or daughter just mention the next time someone brings it up, thats funny they broke up before I dated him, she must be in a sad state looking for someone to blame poor thing, if you take the high road your reputaion will save itself.
2007-01-18 07:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Natashya K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing...keep away from that scene...apologize to the wife and daughter for your part in the mess, and stay away...that is nothing but anguish and misery on that road...don't get fooled again.
2007-01-18 07:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by jimdpr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋