My girlfriend's grandfather had two heart attacks yesterday & my gf is so close to him & the outlook is not looking good. I am doing everything I can to support her but she is so cut up. I could do with any advice people have to help my gf through this difficult time. Thanks!
2007-01-17 23:02:38 · 15 answers · asked by richardwales79 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just make sure all the lame jobs she has to do, washing up, rubbish out etc are just done for her.
then don't push youself in her face to offer help, just be around, close but not too close, let her lead, but show her you are right next to her if she needs help
2007-01-17 23:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by rykkers 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You have never seen her so upset before and you feel helpless.. But just keep doing what you are at the moment be there for her as you are doing you are doing all the right things.. Ask her parenst if there is anything you can do for them also to help at this time you do really care for your gf as you are being supportive comfort her when she needs it let her sound off at you if she needs to.. Well done to you good luck
2007-01-18 09:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be strong mate.
For you to be asking this question you are showing us your concern already, and i am sure that you are doing the same for you girlfriend. Your girlfriend will prob push you away, as the thought of grandfather will not let her think of anthing, or anyone else. Just be there for her when she needs you, and i know it is hard but try not askning if she is ok, or if she wants anythying, as if she wants that she will come to you. Just try holding her and make her feel safe.
Thoughts to you your girlfriend, and her grandfather!! x
2007-01-18 07:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by jane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and be a shoulder to cry on, understand if she dont really want to talk and is a bit miserable.
You cant make her grandad better but you can help her with her pain.
You are a good man.x
2007-01-18 08:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing everything your doing, be understanding if she's having strange moods its to be expected. Remember to take some alone time for you though because that's equally important. Good Luck.xxx
2007-01-18 07:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dad died of a heart attack April 2006. the truth is there isn't anything you can do apart from be there for her. i pushed loads of people away when my dad died. but my partner wouldn't have any of it. i was so nasty to him, but the truth is i wouldn't of got through it with out him, so just stay strong as even if she tries to push you away be there for her. its going to be really hard for her. i hope this helps. xx
2007-01-18 10:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her - hug her - tell her you love her - or say nothing at all - often just having the person next to you is enough.
You sound like a really nice guy and your girlfriend is lucky to have you
xx
2007-01-18 07:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear guy! understand your girlfriend. she is in a great trouble.
give your best emotional support to her. she would understand your feelings. once, her grandfather would be well you can take her to a truly lovable place she likes to go to.
2007-01-18 07:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by tinkle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there, and be understanding, she will lash out at you because that's what we do when we are in pain. Don't take it personally, and just quietly sit in the corner, and go to her when she asks you.
2007-01-18 07:06:44 · answer #9 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is just to reassure her you are there for her and her family Hon.
2007-01-18 07:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋