What age is the best to start having children?

Question

My hubby and I tryin to have babies now. Im 20 an he's 35. Is this the best age or should we wait?

Answer 1

Personally, I think it's a good idea to wait. I love my children, but I had both of them young and was never really able to live. I was married at 18, pregnant at 20, pregnant at 22, and so buried under responsibility that I had to grow up fast. My husband and I drifted apart and eventually divorced. Now it's always worry. Are they ok? Are they hungry? Do I have enough time to sleep before going to work? They are very very worth it, but if you're young it saps you.

Answer 2

Well I personally think you should wait. I'm 20 and married, so I'm in a similar place in my life as you are. Right now you should enjoy your freedom. Imagine having an actual physical crying baby right at this exact second. Imagine all the things you like to do, all the places you'd like to travel, careers, college, going out on the weekends with friends, spur of the moment sex anywhere in the house...all of that will be much harder with a baby. You'll have to get a babysitter any time you want to leave or do anything without a crying baby bugging you. And if you haven't been married for more than a year or two it will put a very large strain on your relationship...the focus in the marriage will move to the child instead of each other and if you aren't very very solid and committed beforehand, then you can both start feeling very lonely...especially your husband. So really, I suggest waiting a few more years.

Answer 3

When you are in a situation where you are both able and willing to provide a loving, caring environment, and be able to provide the necessities for the baby - ie. clothing, food, shelter, education, etc.

A time where you both WANT the baby (having a baby when one of a couple isn't convinced is NOT a good idea).

A time where you are sure that there aren't things that either of you still want to do that having a baby would prevent or hinder doing in the future (ie. study, travel, etc)

So long as you're relationship is ready and sound, and you can adequately provide the baby these things, then any time is a good time.

Answer 4

Myself, I waited until I did everything and had traveled everywhere I wanted to go...I all so enjoyed being married without children for some time so that we can experience things together and knew each other, My first was when I was 26 and I felt I was ready...But I feel that 20 is just to young still, You still have some living to do.

Answer 5

For a man it does not matter too much. The timing is dependant on both social (you need to have a stable household and people who can help you) and phyisical needs. The general recommendation is to start before the lady reaches 35 as after that point it gets harder to concieve.

Answer 6

If u are ready it's up to u. I had my daughter at 26 and my son at 28.
I would not have been ready before hand lol. It is a really big step so u have to think about it.

Answer 7

there's no best age. it depends on alot of factors. firstly, are you ready to carry this, i would say burden ?things are not going to be same again, you have a kid to care for, more expenses, lesser time with your friends. be sure to make sure your financial capability is enough to support the whole family. maybe you might have 2 kids ? that's gonna be even harder. but kids are cute though :) it all depends whether you are ready or not.

Answer 8

Whenever you feel psychologically ready! Your body is ready at the age of 20!

Answer 9

if your ready then yes if ne one thinks there ready then go for it no matter bout age age dont determin how good ro bad of a mom you are going to be good luck sweetheart

Answer 10

I think a lot of kids would like older, mature parents. So perhaps a few years, if since you are asking.

I was 40 when my kid was born.