If two married adults consent to sexual relations outside of their marriage, is it really that bad? No one has to find out and it may help the pair appreciate their marriage even more after the affair is over. In addition, it is normal for people to seek pleasure.
2007-01-17 22:30:55 · 20 answers · asked by Thinker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to play the devil's advocate, but damn the only thing that makes it wrong is the words of the bible. I mean damn Moses had many wives, Abraham, King Solomon, I mean its human nature to have sex, but then again you must think about the consequences now adays, of having sex especially in this situation(IE)disease, jealous spouse, you know.
2007-01-17 22:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by brandley_1999 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Given the fact that you've tried quite hard to justify to us why you're having an affair, I suspect that you're less than comfortable with it yourself. If you sat down and thought about it, what are those reasons? Do you really feel that you need to have an affair with someone else in order to appreciate the person you married - if so, how does that work? In some cultures your actions would be fine - marriage is a social construction based on our culturally accepted rules - honesty, respect, fidelity. In the grand scheme of things what you're doing isn't that bad at all, but don't kid yourself that it's not "bad" in terms of a marriage - there's not a lot worse you could do...?
2007-01-18 06:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by christiaanmorgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually someone will find out, as there is a real risk of falling in love with the person your having the affair with, and wanting to end the marriage to be with the other person. if u had an affair means u don't love or respect your mate, can't go outside a marriage to fix it's problems, have to work on it with your spouse if u have problems. usually affairs are selfish , all about lust and passion one doesn't feel for your spouse anymore.
2007-01-18 08:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called guilt and that is what the two of you will have to live with. Will they find out most likely yes, what ever goes on in the dark always come to the light, it may not be today ,next week or a month from now but it will happen, trust me. Having an affair is a Sin and when your mates find out then you will deserve any and everything you get.
2007-01-18 06:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they feel to need to seek something in someone else then they shouldn't have got married in the first place. Marriage is all making a commitment to the one you love for the rest of your life. If you feel the need to get something from an outside party then you should end the marriage, not string your spouse along. Its not fair on them
2007-01-18 06:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is the way you both think and feel and believe it is ok to do this then you are a unique pair. Most people would never consent to such a thing and I really don't think either of you love the other person. I am talking about deep down in your heart. If you did then this would not even be a question and you would certainly never want to do such a thing. Having an affair will lead only to problems and eventually your breakup.
2007-01-18 06:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be sure your sins of infedelity will be found out. And when you spouse does the finding out ---woooooaaaaahhhhh it will suck to be you then ......
If you would put half 1/2 the effort into your marriage as you do sneaking around you would have the most wonderful marriage on earth. Think about it!
2007-01-18 06:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should seek sexual relations within your marriage not outside. How would you feel if your spouse was seeking pleasure elsewhere?
2007-01-18 08:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by caribbeanmeme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look this is called adultery. Sooner or later your spouse will find out about your misdeeds. Look save yourself a lot of heartache and drama. Do not even go there.
2007-01-18 06:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is morally wrong and you have to live with the guilt of cheating your spouse.
It is not the question that no one will know. What if your wife do come to know of it, what will happen.
The other is STD, if she sleep with you, she may sleep with others. Do you want to spread to your wife.
Get the idea out of your head before you land into trouble.
Good Luck
2007-01-18 06:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋