It is true,she likes women all her life,she never liked a boy.I think she got influenced by mybi-way of life.I don't think it is wrong but my father would not accept that.Should I encourage her?
2007-01-17 22:25:03 · 19 answers · asked by Erina♣Liszt's Girl 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As much as you are already encouraging her, DO NOT ACTIVELY engourage her. Especially considering that your dad wouldn't accept it. Think about it. She's only 15. Do you really want to play a part in her wrecking her relationship with her dad for possibly the rest of her life?
That said, I've read numerous medical journals that say basically the same thing. This kind of "self-discovery," as they put it, is very common in early-to-middle adolesence. I don't have anything against gay/bi/lesbian people at all. One of my cousins is gay, and I love him to death; he's one of the funniest dudes I've ever met. But me, I'm straight as heck. I'm registered democrat, and liberal, therefor, I support gay rights and same-sex marriages. Love is Love. I believe Love doesn't just cross the race barrier, but in some cases, I have seen it cross gender barriers as well. I know a lesbian couple who have been together for 50 years.
My best advice is, let her find her own path. Guide her (not encourage, but guide her). Allow me to give you this question to chew on, a question from a film I'm sure most of us here have all seen called "American History X": "Has anything you've done... made your life any better?"
And also think about this. Yes, AIDS can be transmitted to completely straight people like myself (no, I don't have AIDS), even those practicing safe sex. But I believe its much more common and much easier to transmit between gays and lesbians, and bisexuals (Please, don't take this as an attack on you, it isn't. As I said, I'm liberal. I voted for John Kerry :D I'm simply answering your question.). Think about the well-being of your sister. Weigh the possibilites, and think about the possible consequences. If I were you, I would not encourage her at all. I hope that things work out. Best of luck to both you and your sister. She's too young to get estranged from her father. If I didn't have a good relationship with my father, I would be almost completely alone except for my brother. Once again... best of luck to you, especially to her, and best wishes. My thoughts are with both of you.
2007-01-17 22:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your sister likes women its her choice. Don't encourage her to reamian the way she is but don't let you father encourage her that it is wrong there is nothing wrong with having feeling for someone of the same gender.
Just do me a favour; stand by her no matter what even if she does change her mind, and stick up for her as if people at school (If She Goes To School) start talking about her and also try sitting down with your father and discussing it with him ask why he thinks the way he is and just try to tell him its her life and therefore it is her choice.
Nobody has the right to take away her thoughts and feelings
Good luck: Angel Of Life -X-
2007-01-18 00:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Angel of Life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't encourage or discourage. Tell her that she needs to make her own mind up, at 15 she is learning about herself and only really just becoming aware of who she is. She may grow out of it, maybe she won't either way tell her that she should do what makes her happy.
2007-01-17 22:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 15 no teenage has decided what they like, let her experiment. if shes never been with a lad then maybe its because she hasnt had the chance to give men a try before disliking them.
honestly, give her time, no teenagers decide on their sexuality just like that and she needs time as she'll change her attitude in time
2007-01-17 22:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont encourage her, but take time to talk to her about her feelings and life in general. All you need to do is listen, confused young people always need someone willing to listen - with an open mind. You dont need to encourage or discourage anything, she will find her own way, in time.
2007-01-17 22:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by gixerbry 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just support her in whatever decision she makes and help her through it. She may need your help regarding your father, so help him understand. Don't encourage her too much as she needs to make her own decisions.
2007-01-17 22:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt encourage anyone unless they want you to. but what i would do is just accept her as she is. afterall she is your sister. if she comes to you for advice then tell her your truths about the subject. otherwise i wouldnt even bring it up. theres alot of other things you can talk about with your sister besides her sexual preferences.
2007-01-17 22:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should not encourage her but you should support her i mean love has nothing to do with gender so your father might not accept it but im sure he would love his daughter any way she is
2007-01-17 22:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by mike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! Just tell her you are there and will support whatever decision she makes!
If you encourage her and your dad finds out you will cause no end of family problems!
2007-01-17 22:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by jamand 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're her sister. You should encourage her to accept her sexuality and be proud of who she is.
2007-01-18 01:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋