My new found friend is very sweet and we have good chemistry, and he wants to get married eventually; we've been dating for about five months now, should I tell him I'm still married? I really don't want to say anything until things get more serious between us; like a ring on my finger or a move in that direction. The monkey wrench in this situation is this: we are long distance however we have met each other and we have been intimate, but it's hard because we don't get to see each other on the regular; plus he's over-the-road, but he calls me everyday on his cell and everytime he picks up and drops off a load and when he goes enroute to his hometown and he calls me from home; he even calls me when he's not working; he has a little girl so he'll call me whenever they go places and he will want me to stay on the phone with him while he's doing things period.. my husband is with another woman now and has no interest in me anymore so our relationship has been over... should new guy know?
2007-01-17 22:04:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should be truthful with him and you should also divorce as soon as possible. Good luck
2007-01-17 22:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm legally married and seperated as well. I have been in a long term relationship with another man now for over a year so speaking from experience... You should be up front and honest by telling him. You don't want to start this new relationship with a secret like that or you'll ruin any kind of trust in the future.
2007-01-17 22:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by jessica p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell him before the relationship grows deeper. I'd say it may be easier for you to tell him since you are both long distance from one another. Just tell him how he makes you feel, how afraid you are to lose his relationship, but that trust and respect are two issues that matters a great deal to you. Tell exactly what is in your heart. It doesn't matter if your husband is seeing another lady, just get together with him and ask for a divorce. Tell your boyfriend that you are asking for a divorce. Be honest with him. If he loves you as much as you love him, he will certainly understand.
2007-01-17 22:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should file for a divorce regardless if you stay with this guy or not,if you get together you can always say my divorce has been filed but it hasn't went to court yet if he asked but 5 months isn't really long enough to know anyone but you can still will filed for a divorce in the meantime.
2007-01-17 22:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you hanging on to your marriage-----you've been seperated for 2 years----You need to go to court and have your marriage dissolved. this person you're conversing with on the phone----is just a phone buddy----You're reading into this phone relationship like it's a solid done deal. This is a very immature way to handle your love life---by constantly waiting for the telephone to ring.
Get yourself divorced and maybe then you can start a relationship with your phone person that could be something more than just a ring on the telephone !
2007-01-17 23:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you want a relationship with this person then you do not need to start it out with lies.how would you feel if you were in his shoes.a GOOD relationship is based on honesty.talk to him tell him how you feel and what is going on and get a divorce from husbandif it is truely over as you will not be able to be happy with anyone else till you do.good luck
2007-01-17 22:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course tell him, there is no shame in it. After 2 years you should really consider getting divorced, just to tie up the loose ends of your past. This will free you up to pursue this relationship fully if you wish to.
2007-01-17 22:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him immediately. It will only be worse later. He may feel betrayed since you have not been honest with him. Why don't you get divorced from your husband? Your husband does not sound worth your time if he is with another woman.
2007-01-17 22:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must divorce ur husband first. Whether u tell ur bf or not, is a different matter altogether.
2007-01-17 22:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell him wright away. He is entitled to know. It will build trust.
2007-01-17 22:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋