He about 3 inches taller than me and weighs 70 pounds more than me and it is very hard to "whoop" him. Because he's bigger than me, he doesn't think he has to do what I tell him. What do I do?
2007-01-17 21:16:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
GOD! good luck 2 u!!!! !m going through the same thing with my 14yr old daughter!! my girl knows i wont wop her, and she thought she had me beat,, till she went out, and came home to find most of her "goodies" gone!!!!!!!!Eg;i pod, stereo, tv, makeup, cd player, ect u know... all the stuff they think they cant live without! When she came home i told her that those things were privelages, privelages she had lost thru her disrespect of me, now she has to earn them back as quickly or slowly as she chooses thru her behaviour and respect shown in the home. Just because they are bigger than us dosent mean they are smarter !!!!!!Thats why we are the parents and they are the kids!!!! hope this helps!!!! {it was kinda fun..gettin my own back in a cheeky kinda way!!!!!!}
2007-01-17 21:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be whooping a child for any reason no matter what the age is-it causes behavior problems later in life, which I think you are seeing now! It all depends on what your boy is doing that deserves punishment-if it is really bad you can take away things that he loves-video game,cell phone,TV etc. Make him do some hard work around the house and ground him from seeing your friends.
2007-01-18 00:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a thirteen year old girl, and I know that kids have a hard time being puished. Take things away, concerts, clubs, time spent hanging out with freinds, nintendo, phone, computer, tv...
Or, you could ground him. But don't have the regular grounding, because he might sneak out. Have his punishment be to stay with at all times.
You must reenforce your words. Make sure he is punished. And DON'T give him any warning, cuz it won't do anything. Even if he only sassed back, punish him. He should get the message. Point out that you are taking care of him in your house, so he has to follow your rules.
2007-01-17 22:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Unknown. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big problem...it is an epidemic! I assume you are single raising you son. Too many start out by trying to be their kids friend....you cannot be their friend, you are a parent, you are in charge! The friend part will come later, but only if they are raised to respect you. I raised two boys, both grown now and great kids. And yes, I did beat their a*s on occasion....I never sent them to their room where they had T.V., games ect. Realizing they get too big to handle physically....you can only take stuff away and keep it away or seek additional help from an uncle or something.
2007-01-17 22:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by zipidydoofus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start taking his favorite things away. If he is out of control boot camp. But soon when he's not allowed to have friends over, can't play with Playstations, have his cell phone or have "the fashion" he wants.
All kids from 12 to 16 try to push the limit but with lots of love, caring, and talking openly he won't be one of these boot camp kids.
2007-01-17 23:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Carol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone bigger than him to "whoop" him. Sounds like he wasn't kept in check when he was smaller/younger and now your gonna play hell keeping him in line. Take away privileges, items of his etc. Does grounding him work or does he just ignore you. Has he always been this obstinate?
2007-01-17 23:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by HiTekRednek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah a good pop in the mouth always has worked for generations! Dont let him get away with that crap!
Take everything that means anything to him away for a couple of weeks! No going out either!
2007-01-17 22:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mommadog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take away things from him. While he is at school take his tv away, his phone, his computer, his game system. Once you take away all the stuff he likes he will realize you are boss. If you have to rent a storage or have the stuff help at a friends house in case he tries to get them back. Its not okay to hit children for any reason.
2007-01-17 21:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smacking kids never achieve any thing.Ground the lad .Make him do chores in the house.Grounding the lad from seein his friends and a special sporting activity might work.
2007-01-17 21:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is put yourself in her shoe....try to think when you was at her age what is the best way that you want your parent to advice or punish you....you should implement the one that you have on mind
2007-01-18 08:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jonathan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋