me and my friend were drunk and we started play fighting next thing were fooling around in bed, i think im GAY.... Ive kind of always expected it but I have a boyfriend and he will be heartbroken how do I tell him what happened
2007-01-17 21:03:19 · 14 answers · asked by angel 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
this is actually my 2nd expierence and i dont have the heart to lie to my boyfriend
2007-01-17 22:01:39 · update #1
How do you tell him? Try this = Honey? Do you think it's possible for a couple like you and me to have too much in common? He's gonna say "like what?" Then you say "well ,, it's like this, you and me, we both like girls". Is that a problem for you?
2007-01-17 21:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by tee_nong_noy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. It's almost impossible to not hurt him at least a little by this. You can soften the blow and decrease the resentment by being upfront and honest about it. At the least, break it off short term just to get your thoughts sorted out. Many people go through a phase where they question their sexuality. There's also the fact that you were drunk angle to think about.
So, in a nut shell:
1. Tell him that you need some time apart to figure things out.
2. Figure out if this is just the youthful experimenting phase or if you're lesbian. Or if you're bisexual.
3. Go back to him or break it off honestly.
2007-01-18 01:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky in that you are not married like I was, it is even harder having to tell your husband that you're a lesbian then breaking it off with a boyfriend. No matter how gentle you tell him that you are interested in women, he is going to get hurt and maybe even blame himself. My advise is just to try to do it as slowly and gently as possible. And personally, I wouldn't tell him that you were fooling around; just stick to telling him that you are interested in women.
Best of luck.
2007-01-18 05:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are gay, just bi-curious. It's not a bad thing. You are interested in exploring women a bit more. If your boyfriend is worth is salt, he'll encourage you to explore your sexuality - and offer to accompany you, for your safety while doing so. Talk to him.
2007-01-17 21:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by north79004487 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him for some other reason. He is going to think you changed because of him. Good luck and to thine own self be true.
2007-01-17 21:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Billy Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you hurt his feelings by telling him that? your not even sure if your a lesbian or not
2007-01-17 21:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men do not mind their girls having mild lesbian tendencies. Somehow it adds to the girls sex appeal.
2007-01-17 22:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him, that you can still be friends...and have 3 sums ( m+f+f )
2007-01-17 22:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by The Con 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u should reconsider wherever u are lesbian or not.. b'cos if u expected that u are lesbian.. u will not be dating your bf
2007-01-17 21:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
let him go.
later on if you want to spawn,
find a donor!
2007-01-17 21:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋