I've been married for 2yrs, and we have a baby. The problem is that I love my husband alot but I just don't like to hug, kiss or cuddle with him any more. I don't know why? He's greatest thing that ever happened to me,he's a great guy. He'd do anything for me. He's always throwing it in my face,saying that I'm cheating on him, which I'm not and would never do it either. I'm going to school at night and then taking care of my baby, picking up the house, and doing my,studying/homework in the day.So I'm pretty tired when I get home at night.When I was growing up I never saw my parents.show any affection towards each other and I still have'nt to this day.I'm not making any excusses, saying that's why I'm doing it. I'm just trying to make everything all better and bring the sparks back into our relationship.
2007-01-17 20:34:51 · 7 answers · asked by ROXY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your just tired you poor girl. Try getting Mum and Dad to take the baby for a weekend take the phone off the hook and just relax, no housework, no homework just chill. Nice light meal and a bottle of wine. You might find your feeling like you did two years ago. But if it don`t work you have had a nice rest. Lots of Luck Honey.
2007-01-17 20:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two years is not very long to be married. You don,t say how long you have been together but if you haven,t been together
for a long time you are still getting to know one another. Then
having a baby takes up so much time it is easy to forget each
other as lovers. You are mom and dad., and you do lose your own identity. But.. you are working hard. It is not easy when there
is so much going on in your life. You are blaming yourself and
looking for reasons why you feel the way that you do. It is not
your fault. You should tell your husband that you are too damn
tired to have an affair! Could you not leave your studying for a
year? Put that on hold just for a little while. Then you won,t be
so tired and anxious. Ask your husband for help and tell him you
have got to start working together to make a happy marriage.
If he can start to understand you a little more then perhaps you
will start to feel more affection for him. Is it only you that is trying
to put the spark back into your relationship? Because I think that you are being hard on yourself. Hope you work things out!
2007-01-17 20:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre just stressed out from carrying a heavy life load. The stress is causing you to fall back a little rom your love life. This is not fatal. You just need to sit down with your husband and explain this to him. The way youre handling this stress is causing your husband to think youre having an affair, and this is also adding to your stress. This is a temporary situation as school will be over someday,the baby will be older, the marriage will be older and hopefully youll be able to better manage your life load. Have a heart to heart talk with your husband, explain the whole situation and ask him to help a little more around the house. It wont kill him. It just might make him realize what youre going thru. So your marriage future is actually in your hands and a good communications away from saving it. Good luck
2007-01-17 21:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need real love and affection more than anyone in the family, trust me. Get off the inhuman work load that you have burdened yourself with. Taking care of baby needs quality time and moreso studying is also quite brain taxing. Your husband needs to realise that you're being hard on yourself by trying to work things out in the best way possible. He needs to shoulder some responsibilty too, shower you with lots of affection instead of accusing you so unjustly of having an affair. Sweets, you need to relax for a while and take things easy :).....here's a warm hug coming your way http://www.123greetings.com/events/hug_day/ to comfort you. Take care!!!
2007-01-18 23:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by lisa.reeves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and may be you can look for someone to help you around the house so you can relax sometimes. You can also take a break from everything and take a holiday for few days.
2007-01-17 20:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by auntsid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have change ur life style and learn to relax. Ur husband is rightly annoyed with u. U love but husband expects more than mere plutonic love.
2007-01-17 21:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid if you hug or kiss him, he will expect sex and you are exhausted. Also, the more he nags you for sex, the more you resist because the nagging is a real turn off.
2007-01-17 23:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋