my husband of almolst a year has hit me again and he said hes dorry and hes going to get help. I have a black eye, fat lip, and my ribs are really sore or bruised from him puncing me. We got into a fight and I dont know what to do cuz I love him so much. Now he has been trying to take care of me cuz Im hurting so bad. please help
2007-01-17 20:11:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pick up the phone and dial 911...It will only get worse if you stay, one day he may even kill you...Run
2007-01-17 20:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You said he has "hit me again", which tells a story by itself. No man should ever hit a woman, especially a family member. IF your husband really loves you, he will stop attacking you by going to a support group for violence tendency. Also you should call a friend, have photos taken of your bruises, black eye, fat lip, etc, start documenting these performances of your hubby. If possible, call the police or a neighbor next time, or even now, before you finish healing. Whatever you do, do NOT let yourself get pregnant, for that's no life to bring another innocent life into! No matter how much he begs for forgiveness, pleads for a baby, get out of there while you are still able to walk!!!! Love leads to kindness, not violence!!! Tell someone quickly what is going on in your household. Friends and family will want to help you desperately, DO NOT KEEP HIS SECRET---Women disappear & get murdered that way, no one wants that to happen to you, do you? PLEASE TALK TO OTHERS around you; even if it's his boss; he needs to be taught a lesson somehow. You obviously have use of the computer at times, so report his actions! Stand up for yourself, you may feel you are not worthy of love & that may be why you allow him to hit you & stay w/him. You are worth MUCH MORE THAN HIM!!!! You deserve to be healthy and happy and loved; get over this loser, girlfriend!
2007-01-18 04:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now before your family is attending your funeral. Do you not watch this stuff on TV. It does not get better. Call the police and have him arrested before it is too late. If the bruises go away then he will say it never happened. Love does not hurt. You may think you love him but there is no way you can love someone that beats you. He has given you a very low self esteem and that is what he wants that way he can control you. Get out and make a new and good life for yourself. You will find someone later in life after your life is together that will appreciate you. DO NOT LET THIS GO ON FOR ANOTHER SECOND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck in lifes journey and remember you can make it on your own you do not need a man to make it. Once you can do it alone you will find someone nice I promise.
2007-01-18 05:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said that he hit you "again". So what's different this time? The "sorry" part? The "getting help" part? Here's an idea. Let the cops take him away and he can get his help from behind bars. And while he's away, you can take some karate classes or something because you "love him so much" and will probably take him back. If you won't get out, at least give yourself a chance. Your life may depend on it.
2007-01-18 04:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dippy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now!!
He will continue to make up excuses and may hurt you even worse next time. Go stay with family or friends and file for divorce. No man should hit a woman ever.
2007-01-18 05:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? If he beats you, you have to leave him. Let him get help but away from you! People rarely change and this problem might persist for years. Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? At the very least get help from someone other than in yahoo answers. Some real help.
2007-01-18 04:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by Marc 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior. Leave him until he seeks help. He will only hit you again if doesn't get help and the next time may cause permanent damage to you or even kill you.
2007-01-18 04:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
AGAIN. You must get out of that relationship now. He does not love you this is purely abuse. This is the usual way abusers work they beat up their partner then apologise but it will happen again and again. No real man would punch any woman never mind his partner you say you love him but please love yourself more.It is NOT your fault. Go to your local womens shelter for help and advice you can find this in your local telephone directory. Please do this for yourself today before something even worse happens the next time he can`t control himself and beats you up.
2007-01-18 04:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is trying to nurse you so you will not call the law...right now you can recover, the next time you may not..It will happen again, and again, til you get out...once it starts they cannot quit, it is a problem, he has to fix it, so call and get a Domestic Violence protection...do it while you are hurt...the next time you may not be this lucky...pls do something now..
2007-01-18 04:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 1st husband beat me shot me,cut me tioed me up ,and alot more then i dont want to say for 10 years i've tried to leave and everytime i did he put me in a coma,(4 times) so what i did i got close to my family,told them what was going on, and my friends,any one that is worth trusting is your way out ,,if i was you i would find someone that is and will help you,everyone always says you need to get out,well for thoes who dont know because they have never been there before do all of us women and men that has.......SHUT UP. but you reaaly need to find a safe way of some kind and leave him.hiting and so on is not love its controlling....your his pet and thats it,,so he will treat yopu as one.i thank God that im still here..........my friends and family tell me im a strong woman,,,,,,but im really not im just a person that wants to live,and enjoy my children, and just be happy,thats all.
2007-01-22 03:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by nobodyspeical00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None will hit other unless the other has annoyed one and that too beyond his tolerance level. If it is not so, report the matter to police and get rid of the alliance with him. If otherwise, mend ur ways.
2007-01-18 05:35:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋