I have let myself drop down to a point of being such a loser when I have and know I can be so much more. I know a part of me is very sad, but I know I need to get over this and be myself again. Well, it's been 4 years now and now I am at the point where I am the lowest. I know what I need to do but everything just gets knocked down. I know I am better but am having the hardest time getting back up. I have tried outside help but people just don't understand. I am sort of feeling sorry for myself, but I truely want to be the way I used to be. But obviously, I'm going nowhere and getting worse. Any suggestions of how not to be such a losa?
2007-01-17 19:53:31 · 10 answers · asked by bentley b 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
well quit doing drugs for one and start by setting goals for yourself . If you do anything for a period of 21 days in a row often times you will find it becomes a habit so set some short term goals for yourself and force yourself to stick to them. Post little notes of your goals to remind you to stick to
them if need be, and trust me need will be.Most of all remember that you have to want to change for change to take place. Now it's up to you. how bad do you want to change?
2007-01-17 20:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by daizzddre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a really good sign that at least you know that you can be so much more. I don't know what happened four years ago, but it has obviously put you under a great deal of pressure and stress.
If the people you know do not understand, why not speak to a counselor/therapist or even a general MD--any of them can be of help--and at least let you know what's going on.
Visit the library and take out some self-help books. They are useful in helping people with self-esteem, positive affirmations, how to survive losses, etc. There are also books about mental health problems, stress, and so much more.
Pick yourself up, and start helping yourself. I know it has been difficult, but it's time. If you need help, get some--there are free clinics if you have no money/insurance. Check it out.
Be well.
2007-01-18 04:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loosa at what? You just survived 4 years! Tom Hanks, in " Castaway" survived on an island for 4 years. He came away with the motto, " Keep on living. You never know what the tide will wash in." There IS life after.....what ever, who ever. Like it or not, you've past that exit on the great highway of life and now you're looking into....uncharted territory....the future. You're stuck with this life cycle, so do something with it. Do something new and different. A person who can survive 4 tough years deserves a good tide now and then. And who wants to be the way you used to be? I just told you, that's history. Be the new you! YOu're tougher, you're stronger ( because it didn't kill you, right?), you are wiser and better. So, into your life some rain fell. It's a common experience. What are you going to do now? Continue to sit in it and pine for the good old days? Here's a clue... in just four years, these will BE the good old days. Don't be the old you. That person was pathetic. The new you is in charge. Now don't fritter away another four years.
2007-01-18 04:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by James M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody goes through life with ups and downs. From experience I could relate to what you are currently going through.
At work, I decided to take a personal development course to determine if it could assist my personal crisis. I was a sceptic at the start but after doing the course I was amazed how much I learnt about myself. The aspect of mental blocks that scarred in early childhood disenganging me from being expressive and depressing me to the point of no return.
Knowing full well and being made aware with these issues by a professional psychologist I have been fortunate enough to rediscover myself. And life has been a bliss ever since then. My relationship with my wife is wonderful and I still keep in contact with the psychologist who I owe a great deal to.
Had I not shown and initiative to address this personal crisis I was experiencing I would be feeling what you are. I wish you well in the choice you make. Remember we all fall down, but we have the ability to pick ourselves up, be it ourselves or people who love and support you.
2007-01-18 04:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by ewf e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes:
Get some new interests. Maybe a sport or a club or a musical instrument. It should be something that amounts to something over time.
More importantly: if you think you are at your "lowest" then that means you can only go up! Just accept the fact that you are currently "nothing" and say "so what"; and savour every victory! Eventually you will become something.
2007-01-18 03:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you took the first step by admitting the problem to yourself. it's also good that you know you have the desire to get back up on your feet.
perhaps one thing you could do is to stop pitying yourself. as you said, you know what you're capable of and you know what your worth. it would be a shame to waste your capabilities by drowning yourself in your misery. don't give up just yet. sure, it seems like a lot of the time your plans fail right before your eyes. consider this: maybe the plans you were trying to do weren't really meant to be the solutions to your problems. don't make your downfalls reasons to stay down. see them as opportunities to learn from experience.
so, i guess you feel like you've hit rock bottom. well, guess what. rock bottom isn't the worst place to be unless you tell yourself it's the end of the line. rock bottom is just another place - a point in time that you go through. the thing about being their in rock bottom is that you get the chance to evaluate yourself - what you did wrong and what you could do to get back up on your feet. t
his seemingly lowest point in your life isn't a permanent situation but a temporary setback. open your eyes to what you really are facing. sometimes you just got to make a move to find your way back up. with time and determination, you could get back to being who you used to be and more.
be optimistic and don't belittle yourself. you're capable of reaching great heights. trust yourself to do the right thing and be the best that you could possibly be. don't degrade yourself by calling yourself a loser. you got your share of low points but that doesn't mean you got to stay down for the rest of your life.
2007-01-18 05:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by changing_sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need some anti depressants to get you going again.
2007-01-18 04:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop calling yourself a loser for a start
2007-01-18 05:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by twentyfour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far you have not told any of the circumstances that made you sink to this point. Try to identify that event and seek help resolving it.
2007-01-18 03:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
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just act mad at yourself to motivate?
2007-01-18 04:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋