how to get over with my shy personality at school or othere place as well?

Question

If anyone can give me an idea of how to get over with shyness that will be really helpful.
thanks

Answer 1

Non shy people are annoying. Just look at youtube or myspace. Now imagine working with those people.

Answer 2

I was really shy when I was younger, especially around girls...

When I went from school to university, I made a resolution to be more extroverted and to get on well with people, make people listen to me. It was hard, but the change of circumstances from school to uni really helped.

I just took it step by step and little by little I was able to express myself better. I gave myself small targets like to go to a party and try to make new friends.

By the time I left university, i pretty much had the shyness thing under control.

So now, even though I still have some shy characteristics and enjoy being alone, I don't feel that I am shy anymore. I regularly give presentations to large audiences and I take control of the discussion when I'm at a business meeting.

Girl-wise, I dare say I'm able to chat them up with the best of them. But don't tell my wife I said that.

Answer 3

I know exactly where you are coming from having gone through this feeling my whole life. in fact i am still getting over it but it is a long process.

It is very likely that you have a condition which is called "Social Anxiety" or "Social Phobia". I suggest that you read up on the symptoms of these two to find out if you fit into either.

You will be relieved to find out what it is you have, so you can work on overcoming it.

I read several books and listened to audio series dealing with this issue and I am proud to say that I've gone a long way from what i was just a year ago when i first discovered that my shyness had a name.

A must read book for you is "Painfully Shy: How to Overcome Social Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life" by Gregory P. Markway.

Would be glad to guide you through the process, let me know if you want further guidance.

I hope you gain your life back asap. enjoy!

Answer 4

Shyness can be just a state of mind. You worry what others might think of you. If it were life and death, and you had to find a hospital, would you be too shy to ask for help or directions? Of course not. So start by not worrying about other people's opinions! You're just fine! The more you try, the more you'll find it gets easier. Been there, done that. The water's fine. Jump in!

Answer 5

Initiate the conversation: i realize this is hard but imagine its someone you have never met, they are a blank slate, this is a first impression so give it your best shot. Start off with hello, your name and a how are you. Your throwing yourself out there, you can ask for their name at any time if you feel like the conversation is going your way. Appeal to their interests, dont talk about anything important til your close or it comes on topic and still dont over step you bounds and make the other person uncomfortable. Following these guidelines will start a healthy relationship with most people,

Answer 6

I could relate to you because i was also shy in school and in the office. but close friends couldn't believe that i am because i usually act the opposite when i'm with them. As Ive grown older and become more confident, Ive overcome my shyness with people. Just remember that all of us have our own faults and nobody is perfect or knows everything so don't be afraid to talk to people, and look them in the eye when they talk to you. you need not talk a lot in a converation. Ask questions. Most people are always happy to explain away. This way you'll also be learning and gain confidence in conversing with other people.

Answer 7

Just always remember that if people dont like you the way you are then it is their loss, be proud of who you are, make sure that you always walk with your head up, smile and say hi to those you pass in the halls. Push youself to do these things to start out with and pertty soon it wont be that hard to do. I know I was the shy one at school, It wasnt until after that I learned that the one I really need to please is myself, and if I do that then I will find it easier to inter act with others

Answer 8

Frankly the best solution i found was to just be really shy and not even try to socialise. I ended up meeting all the other shy people and we got on really well.

Answer 9

Just try not to think about it and pretend you're in your normal being, like at home. I am very shy but then started remembering I can't control what others think so, why should I try to cover myself up and try to hide. Just be yourself and everyone will see how great you are.

Answer 10

you must make the first step. there may be stumbling blocks along the way but continue on