i still like her despite the fact that she hurt me thinkin what i didn't know wouldn't hurt me...but now i know what she did n i don't know how to react coz i like her so much n despite what she did i don't wonna lose our friendship...i don't think i cud ever find a friend that i value as much as her...how do i teach her a lesson and still keep her as a friend?
2007-01-17 19:19:38 · 10 answers · asked by lilsis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First, if you want to keep her as a friend, you must let the "teach her a lesson" thing go. Second, everyone makes mistakes, but friendships must have trust. If she just kep something from you that you should've known and that's the extent of it, then you should talk to her and tell her how you felt betrayed when you found out and tell her that although you love being her friend, your just not sure if you should consider continuing the friendship because you need to be able to trust your friends beyond what she did. See what she says.
2007-01-17 21:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by KittyKatt 1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you teach her a lesson in honesty, forgiveness and friendship, instead of tryng to teach her a lesson by being vengeful. If she really is that good of a friend, then you need to confront her with what you know...not in an angry way, but in a clear teh air way. You have to clear the air if you want to remain good friends and work on rebuilding trust. Simply tell her that you know what she did. However, you love and value her as a friend and don't want to lose your firendship and that you choose to forgive her for what she has done. Explain that you would like to get past the offense, but that honesty must be at the center of your relationshp at all times. Make up, give her a hug and move on...she will be surprised by your reaction and realize what a good friend you are (especially in this day and age, where it seems like everyone is bent on getting back at anyone who even looks at them funny).
2007-01-17 19:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by nexgenjenith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that teaching her a lesson will help matters. Simply tell her how her actions made you feel. Give her another chance. If you see a pattern of thoughtless or disrespectful behavior, you may need to decide whether this is a friendship that is healthy for you.
2007-01-17 19:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to lose your friend then I suggest for you to talk her about the issues your having with her. She's not going to read you mind, so its best you let her know whats going on. If you are as close as you say your are then it shouldn't be difficult to talk things out. Make sure to do this face to face(not over the phone) go out for dinner and talk things out.
2007-01-17 20:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assalamu Alaikum i for sure receives mad. and the different hand i'd be affected individual. the Prophet PBUH were given insulted and Allah became insulted and His faith. the Prophet became affected individual. it didnt provide up him from spreading the message. i'll forgive the fellow or i wouldnt care. Allah will coach His rath , he will scare them, and could make Hell hearth thier living house for ever. i wouldnt ever insult yet another faith because Allah forbidden that. imagine about it would want to u like even as someone insults ur faith . then how might want to that individual sense if u insulted thier faith. plus if u insult thier faith that is going to income more effective enemys for Islam (we've already got more effective than adequate enemys). i'll attempt to comprimise with the fellow, and see if he/she will be in a position to love thier faith to be insulted, themselves , thier God , and thier maximum dearest concern. and that i'll requested them in a polite thanks to provide up insulting my faith. Wassalmu Alaikum.
2016-10-15 09:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this friend hurt you so much then she probably doesn't deserve you as a friend. you should let her know you've been hurt because she probably doesn't know. hope she apologizes and when she does i hope you can forgive her.
2007-01-17 20:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by twentyfour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody is perfect,you should forgive her.you are the person who may sometimes unknown have hurt someone,so everyone need understanding.
2007-01-17 19:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by haimingweng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she do it carelessly have you thought of that??
Give her a warning and tell her how much you love her
2007-01-17 21:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by secret &trade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you confront her with the truth dude.
2007-01-17 19:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by Curly Haired Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE IT EASY PATIENTLY!
YOU WILL BE THE WINNER!!!
2007-01-17 19:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋