Married for two and half years I found out my wife has been having affair with her distant cousin. The affair has recently stopped with the cousin who is presently staying with us for a 3 month holiday and she decided she wants me. Offcourse I feel disapointed that only now she makes her preference and for me the probably decision would be to divorce her. However I still love her and she does love me despite of her cheating. She also had an affair before our marriage before I met her which lasted for two years. I could forgive her BUT I feel she is conditioned to the fact that having an affair is not a sin and I would be affraid of thinking she will do it again.
2007-01-17 18:36:29 · 16 answers · asked by maleinaus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she doesn't share the same belief system or morals as u do. because this is not the first time she has cheated on u. it is difficult to take someone back and trust that they won't do the same thing to us again. most would just end it, to avoid any more heartache involved with that person. this may be who she is, and be part of her character. best to leave it and get on with life. no one enjoys getting cheated on and hurt, and if it has become a pattern of behavior with her, it will just be a matter of time before your struggling with it again.
2007-01-18 00:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people men and women, that is impossible to be faithful...It would be with anyone, at anytime, anywhere..These people need professional help.. even then it's not a guarantee, that they'll become faithful.. I am sorry for you, when she becomes old, and unattractive, done to multi sex partners, she'll then realize what she had...in the mean time, do you want to wait for her? Or do you want to find a beautiful woman, that will be faithful to you? There are many of these women out there for you to meet. Do yourself a favor and get out now before she comes home and gives you Aids or something else..You don't want to find yourself in a embarrassing situation when you find the one that will love you and be faithful to you and you have to tell her that you have a incurable STD. best of luck
2007-01-17 18:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She WILL do it again. Cheaters never change, and i've learned this the hard way and so have so many people close to me. Think about this, If she loves YOU and she commited her life to YOU and only YOU, why would she need someone else to fulfill her needs? If she loved you, like she claimed on her wedding day she would have never done anything like that to you. Leave her, it may be hard but it's better to leave now then if you lose every sense of being that you have by trying to stay with her.
2007-01-17 18:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by beth3988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No why do people hang onto something that has been broken. U will never see each other in the same light. Cousin k that just goes to show she is a complete psycho and unstable. Its never easy but move on. Find someone better.
2007-01-17 18:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear about ur problem but im goin to tell u something str8 out when there is no trust there is no love there is lust n when there is no love there is no respect she disrespected u n im sorry but sometimes even though it will hurt u need to walk away cuz one day if u walk in on her god only knows what a human is capeable of so save ur self the jail time n move on im sorry take care
2007-01-17 18:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by The Boss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you still there she dont respect the married vow nor do she respect you one of the key ingredient in love is trust then on top of it she did it in your house give her twenty dollar and kick her to the curb and tell her go stand on the corner and wait for the next sucker there are two manny woman out the who can read and understand the married vow
2007-01-17 19:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in divorce unless there is abuse or cheating involved. once that line is crossed, the decision is on you. you can make it work if you want to, but this is going to be a very hard thing to do.
2007-01-17 18:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant trust her.Its really waste to trust her.I think you should leave her.It may be hard to leave her but you will definitely find better girl then her who is honest like you and respect you.Having affair with other person after marriage is not forgivable.
2007-01-17 18:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by minal p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out she is going to keep doing it don't let it be you she cheats on any more run fast and far let the freak have her cousin maybe she has an uncle or grandpa that are lonely.
2007-01-17 18:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by jdevil_74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her and that cousin out. Sorry but it sounds like your wife will sleep with anybody.
2007-01-17 18:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋