My little girl is 2 weeks old. Her father wants to take her for an overnight visit to see his parents. We are not currently "together". I can't bear the thought of spending an entire night away from her this soon. He says I'm being selfish. Advice?
2007-01-17 18:33:32 · 19 answers · asked by justsumchickie1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I DON'T THINK YOU ARE BEING SELFISH AT ALL. I WOULD FEEL THE SAME WAY. YOUR BABY IS SO BRAND NEW. ALSO, AS A MOTHER WE WANT TO KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON AND WHO ELSE WOULD BE AROUND OUR BABY. I THINK THAT HIS PARENTS SHOULD COME SEE THE BABY AT YOUR HOUSE. OR MAYBE THEY CAN WAIT UNTIL THE BABY IS A LITTLE OLDER. I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. SINCE YOU ARE THE MOM, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO SAY HOW YOU FEEL. I REALLY DON'T SEE WHY THE BABY WOULD HAVE TO SPEND THE NIGHT AWAY FROM YOU. THERE HAS TO BE OTHER WAYS THAT THEY CAN SEE THE BABY. MAYBE ALSO, YOU CAN TALK TO HIS PARENTS AND WORK SOMETHING ELSE OUT.
2007-01-17 18:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by mizzpretti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal feeling. I don't think I left my son overnight until he was like 4 or 6 months old and he didn't go on any over night visits to the grandparents until he was 6 months minimum and that was just because we really needed someone to watch him and we weren't going to be home until really late. My son is a year and my mom has asked several times to take him for 2 or 3 days, but I still won't let her.
Now for me, it's mostly becuase I am a working mom and I want to spend as much time with him when I am not at work as possible, so I can't bear to give him to her for that long, not yet atleast.
2007-01-18 00:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to say no. She's too young to be away from you. And if you're breastfeeding it is impossible for her to be away from you for that long of a time. Even if your not breastfeeding say no. My baby's 3 months and I can't stand the thought of being away from him overnight. Seeing as you and your baby's father are not "together" than eventually you'll have to let the baby go with her dad overnight. But unless he has a court order for it don't let her go. Good Luck and Congratulations on your new baby girl!!!
2007-01-17 18:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy...LT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful with this one. First of all, if you are not together, he might try and kidnap the child. A two week old child is far too young and vulnerable to be away from his or her mother, namely you in this case. You are NOT being selfish. I suggest you seek the advice of an attorney because it sounds to me as though your estranged partner with whom you had this child is aiming to to something rash. Consult an attorney, dear, or you may end up never seeing your child again. Something doesn't sound right here.
2007-01-17 18:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left both my toddlers with my sister for 5 days even as the youngest became 16 months previous. We were about 2 hours away. It wasn't a project because we spent an undesirable lot of time jointly and her toddlers are the same age. i became nonetheless breast feeding her a million feed an afternoon at that factor. (I breast fed the eldest till she became over 2) So it wasn't problem-free to go away them before than that. in case you sense mushy and assured leaving her jointly with her aunt and uncle then bypass and function an staggering time. i'm confident she will be in a position to be high-quality. you're absolute to be slightly tense the first time you go away her yet you should do that is going to really.
2016-10-15 09:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a baby currently two weeks old has no stamina n is too weak. u must be by her side at all times. i know this very well because i have been through this before. the baby needs milk every two or three hours. she also needs your attention all the time. do not leave her alone at all. go with her. if your bf insist you stay at home, then leave him, do not be with him anymore. you are the mother and has the right to take care of her and feed her.
2007-01-17 18:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by chew_thang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is best answered by going to the following website. My initial thought is heck yeah its too early...its the flu season.... and people don't wash their hands. But this website will best answer your question. Print it out and give him a copy. My question to you is...do you breastfeed? Babies that young should not be separated for long periods of time from their mothers and food source! OF course you can pump, but we are talking more about bonding and your babies safety guard being damaged or changed at such an early age. The website is:
http://www.lalecheleague.org/NB/NBJanFeb96p4.html
Keep in mind the information provided is not only for breastfeed babies but all babies...
2007-01-17 19:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by aprildin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way i wouldnt do it...it would be stressful on the little bub and on you i know i couldnt sit still for a minute if someone else had my 2 week old baby your not being selfish at all plus they dont have a connection with the baby like you do the baby needs to be with you at that age. good luck!!!
2007-01-18 00:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too young in my opinion to leave Mom. Selfish? Heck no....the baby shouldn't even be going to see all these people yet. Also, are you breastfeeding? I'd nix this idea right away and say they can come visit.
2007-01-17 23:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal to feel overprotective and I would say NO! Ask if you can go? If not, then explain to him the mothering instinct and if his mom or "women" in his family cannot understand that...then they are screwed up. I would not budge and let him take her. Every woman knows that has had a child how unrelenting it is to let that baby be gone for even a second.
2007-01-17 18:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by precious girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋