Have you ever yelled at a teacher or professor before?

Question

I really tore into a professor and let her have it after she called me and yelled at me about how I was a disapointment and how I should have come to this luncheon that was for class credit. Everyone else in the class had dropped the course after 2 weeks and I was the only one left. I couldn't find the right place of where the luncheon was so I didn't go... I called her and left her a voice mail explaining why and I also wrote her an email apologizing that I wasn't there. She calls me back and yells at me how I'm so disapointing to her and how she "bent over backwards" for me this semester, which she hadn't bent over backwards for me at all! In fact, she didn't for any of her students, as they dropped the darn course. So anyways, I yelled back at her and told her that I didn't need to take crap from her and how she KNEW I had a rotten few weeks because my twin nieces died and how she KNEW I was stressed out and having a hard time... How bad should I feel about letting her have it?

Answer 1

I did it before, my senior year of high school. I had a teacher who seemed bent on not allowing me to go on a field trip if I didn't turn in a term paper. I didn't want to go on the field trip anyway. So the day of the field trip, I didn't turn in my paper, and said, I'm going home. She said no, you're not, get to the principal's office. In front of everyone in class, I yelled, no way, I'm going home, you *****. I am not proud of this, and I have wished I could go back and have a re-do. But I saw the teacher years later, and got a chance to apologize. And she apologized too. And it was all better.

So my advice would be: realize that you were having an incredibly tough time, be kind to yourself, try not to hate the professor, and move on. Forgive yourself, then forgive her.

Some of the best advice I ever got was from the mouth of Jesus I think: Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them that despitefully use you and persecute you. This teacher seems like an enemy... pray for her. You will be ok. All my best.

Answer 2

I don't think you should feel bad about it . It seems that you are not this kind of a person in your general attitudes. What you did was all because of the stress you were facing those days. So be calm and don't think too much about it. I am sure your professor will also realize with the passage of time that what she did was wrong and in reaction to that you yelled at her. If you are still not finding your self out of your guilt (which should not be there at the first place) then if you feel it OK ....go to her anytime and can apologize because we always analyiz what we did and can change that antime and I am sure this will give her the idea also that what she did was really hurting. And be happy !

Answer 3

Not all teachers are good, and very few are great - regardless of aptitude, intelligence or degree.
You were right to do what you did. In front of a class would be very different...but within the two of you, you showed character and confidence. You empowered yourself, which is something a teacher should be responsible for re: their students. It just sounds like your teacher isn't that great a professor, and certainly has little empathy for getting upset at you.
Speaking up for yourself, and knowing when to do it are two different things. It sounds like you've learned the latter already.

Answer 4

First, let me say how sorry I am about your nieces. That must be a terrible burden on you and your family. Someone very important to me died in a car accident at Thanksgiving, I am still grieving. It sounds to me that your teacher has overstepped her boundaries and hasn't acted very wisely. She should rethink a few things. Do you feel bad about what you said or how you said it? Either way, my concern for you is the sadness in your life. Give yourself some time to grieve and regroup. Then, if you feel like apologizing, you can do so without this heavy burden. It will enable you to see things more clearly. My thoughts are with you.

Answer 5

You shouldn't feel badly in the least.

The woman is a batty witch. I would advise you never to speak to her again. What a terrible, sick, conniving thing to do to you. She does not deserve your guilt, your respect, or your friendship.

I never yelled at a teacher or professor; in all reality, I had some of the best ones in the world (in my opinion:) I did not get along well at ALL with my fourth and fifth grade teachers. The latter didn't like me once she found out that my older brother had been in her class (my older brother and I do not get along and never did, but even I can say he was a sweetheart in class and I haven't any idea what she had against him). I think I said "I'm not Derek! Leave me alone!" once, rather loudly. My English teacher senior year was a bi*ch and I lost the AP credit I had almost earned in her class when I switched to another teacher. It was well worth it, however.

That fifth-grade teacher whose name I seem to have repressed loved me prior to knowing my brother had been in her class five years previous - she was a bit, um, insane in the membrane, as they say. Once, after recess, she wrapped her arm around me in front of everyone and started singing "That's What Friends Are For". It was absolutely frightening and I almost died of embarrassment. I'd say it was nice had it been, but she more cackled than sang and I didn't trust her even then as far as I could throw her.

Good for you for sticking up for yourself! I am so terribly sorry about your nieces.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Not bad at all!! You should feel very proud. Because if you let her yell at you and take your right, she'll just keep doing it. Great thing I would have done it myself. Feel good Don't worry!! What you did was the right thing and I mean am sorry for your loss. Don't add more sadness to the equation! She should have understood! Am sorry for ur loss.

Answer 8

I wouldn't feel bad. If she is your teacher she should yell at you, definitely not call you to yell at you. I'd talk to to some one at the school about it. Oh, i so sorry about your nieces.

Answer 9

You have no cause to feel bad.
In her profession she have had more understanding of her students needs
I am so sorry for your losses and I feel that maybe you might benefit from seeing a grief counsellor.
Please do not be offended as i do not intend to offend you.
Take Care and my thoughts are with you at this time.

Answer 10

No. That would be not proper behavior of the student. Chinese student would never do that. Student must respect teacher. Whether he or she like, must respect.