i told him everything and i made things sound a little better than it really was. but i didnt lie about it. theres details in another question i asked... cheated and confused... about what had happened. but even after i told him, i feel really bad and guilty and i cant seem to forget and move on. i told my bf everything and i no it wasnt my fault cuz that guy was drunk and wouldnt let me go after i told him no. and we didnt have sex but he tried to force me to give him head and i told him no. but like i said, i told my bf and still im mad at myself. but im in love with my man. maybe i should give it time cuz i told him yesturday night. any advice?
2007-01-17 17:49:27 · 20 answers · asked by D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He tried to force you to give head????
You did not give head????
You should have bit it off!!!!!
2007-01-17 18:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being a guy myself i can see where your guy's comming from, but at the same time i can also see your point. If you consulted him right after it happened he should understand, but if you didnt he might think that your hiding somthing. However, I do have a question? What were you doing with another guy in the first place. Sometimes wanting to cheat is almost worse than cheating (to guys) because it crushes our ego's. we like to think that our women dont think about other guy's...even movie stars. Maybe you should talk to your guy and let him know why you were with another guy to start with...ya know he'd probably like to know what led you astray. I think thats what you both should be concerned with the most. I say this because you didnt actually complete the act, you werent raped, and most important you both still love eachother. In other words you all shouldnt spend precious time worring about the mistake that was made...no matter what you do you cant take it back, so learn from it. Your lucky that the mistake wasnt a more costly one. NOW WORK ON PREVENTING FUTURE MISTAKES...TOGETHER...BY TALKING ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-17 18:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not sound like you cheated . it sounds like you were taken advantage of.
No unless you are telling us just a few of the facts.
So now you have told your bf and things are not going well, your boy has some trust issues. If this relationship is to make it you two must find a way to trust each other. that will take time and a choice to make it thru this.
Good luck
2007-01-17 18:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read your other question. I guess give him a day or two. You need to fell like a victim and not so guilty....it's awful what happened to you and if he really cares about you he would see past what happened and be out there looking for that guy who did it so he can give him what he deserves. I know that's what my loved ones would be doing if someone forced me to do that. So, I guess give him a day, not two......He needs to be there for you and not act like he's the victim in this situation but recognize that you are. Good luck
2007-01-17 17:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by mda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first please in the future be more careful about being alone with a man he could of killed you and as you said give b/f some time to come around it may take him some time to think this through and the best thing you can do as hard as it may be is to give him that time and space that he's needing right now and when he's got things figure out he'll come back to you and maybe then you 2 can work it out Good Luck
2007-01-17 17:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Leveler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. You betrayed his trust. If you are still together, he obviously wants to work it out. It took time to build the trust he had in you before this happened, and it's going to take time to get that back.
Don't beat yourself up. You did a good thing by being honest with him and telling him the truth. I am sure he sees that.
You could try talking to a relationship counselor about this. That may help.
2007-01-17 17:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was your boyfriend i would go out and cut thet dudes eyes out. why didnt you call the cops. I think you are lieing about some of this story. you got forced into giving a drunk dude head and never went to the police. people are so dumb no wonder everyone is gettting away with rape and murder.
2007-01-17 18:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your obviously still communicating with the guy. The thing is people always like to blame alcohol. Alcohol only makes u do things that u wanted to do but on another level afraid to do it when u are sober.
2007-01-17 18:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there has been a lot of learning here for you...I hope you take the opportunity to grow wiser and move on.
2007-01-17 17:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two sisters and if a guy was trying to take advantage of them, I'd rip them to pieces. Time heals all wounds. Give him time.
2007-01-17 17:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup after about a week of not beating yourself up over it you will gwt back to almost normal, you'll get the odd twinge of guilt but then you'll be pretty much ok, just hang in there.
2007-01-17 20:15:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋