my sister is hot-headed .its unfortunate but in 23 yrs. of her s' she hasn't made any frnds.
she misbehaves with everyone including my parents & me !
i don't know what to do ? since we live in the same house , not talking to each other is also not a solution. please help ! its urgent !
2007-01-17 17:47:41 · 11 answers · asked by ali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sell her on Ebay....
2007-01-17 18:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Her rudeness and anger are her chief weapons. Don't let her use them on you. When she does, tell her calmly and clearly that her choice of response is not good enough, and you are not going to back off because she chooses to try to hold you off with these tactics. Her behavior is just the symptoms, you know, of bigger issues. Your sister needs therapy to deal with the reasons for her behavior. Once you gain her trust, you can propose this. She really must take responsibility for her problems.
I like the suggestion to kiss her on the forehead to say goodnight. You must be firm and loving at the same time. Your parents need to follow suit. Looks like they caved a long time ago.
2007-01-18 02:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get together with you parents and talk about the problem with them. You could get some family counseling or suggest that just your sister gets counseling.
Hold a family meeting after you have talked with your parents and confront your sister with her bad behavior... tell her as a group... explain how her anger and bad attitude effect the family and ask her to get help or join family counseling.
If she refuses then the rest of you should go without her and learn how to deal with her behavior.
2007-01-18 02:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey ali even i am going with the same prob
i thought my sis is doing this purposely becouse of her whole family has to suffer she is being rude to all she dont have freinds because of her behavier............ so on
well but know i realised from mistake that thinking negative about her will want help
well i started looking at her positive sides know
i try to listen what she exactly willing to say whats bothering her so much that she is being rude to her on life becoz they way she behaves she obviously knows that it will bring hateredfor herself only from others
i am trying to be her friend i do says her mistake were she is wrong an other negative arguments she thus at home but in very calm manner
before i used to get angry on her when others r at home but know realize i should talk to her when she is alone at then she will not feel that i am talking to her so nicely to show others how good sis i am
same way i am observing her behavier n righting it down on the paper if i have to change my self a little for her i will do so
then she will try to change her attitude to its like if u want some one ta change, first u gotto change ur self towards that person
but i have decided that if still she behaves same manner i will take her to councellor but without any argue with her
councelor or siacactres can help me with my sis behaviour
hope u will get someidea with this
itook this ideas from very understanding people
try to be freindly and undersatnding person towards ur sis
i believe something is bothering her from her mind may talking to can bring this thing out of her mind she will understand whats exactky disterbing her
she needs ur help not hate
god bless you
2007-01-18 02:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friendly show her that you care for her .Help her out in every way possible sooner or later she will be forced to do what yu are doing to her
best of wishes to get back the real sister you want
2007-01-19 03:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think we both have the same prob my sis is also very rude she tries to behave badly with me the reason behind both the things are their frustation i say do not act over her behaviour if you start doing this she will feel insulted that you are'nt giving her enough importance and will certainly not buzz yo out.
2007-01-18 03:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her nature is like this cozdhe doesnt have any freinds. u can only improve her behevior by being her good friend. give her a flower or gift her a card so that she knows u care. try to do tgiftb her some chocolates or the things of her likes. wen she is happy and cheer ful try to tell her about wat others feel about her behavior an dhelp her to improve. dont get angry on her. step on to this new way of gandhigiri yaar!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-18 02:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by vidhi j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before judging one person TRY TO LOVE them!
2007-01-18 05:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by krishna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before sleep kiss her at forehead , said good night , and smile at her.. try it one week... and she will change :)
2007-01-18 01:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by WorkingAroundWithLove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DROP HER TO MY PLACE. I WILL STRAIGHTEN HER OUT,...........................
2007-01-18 01:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sarang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋