How do i break the news to my daughter that her grandpa has got to go??

Question

Okay im 23 yrs old and have a family of my own to worry about 2 younger kids and my boyfriend.. Well my father moved in with me about a yr ago and every since it is like i have a third child...I support him he is 49 yrs old and i give him money and pick up every day after him he down grades me about everything while he sits and doesnt make an effort to do anything.. The problem is my 6yr old daughter thinks the world of him but see he allowed his girlfriend to kick me out when i was in the 7th grade while he stayed with her every since i was 16 i have been on my own and if i kick him out my family will hate me and my daughters heart will be broken but i dont know how long i can go on with this .It is causing problems with me and my boyfriend because i put up with all my dad does to me.. I just dont know how to break it to my daughter i dont want her to be heart broken

Answer 1

He sounds like he should have left a long time ago,Tell the kids that grandpa wants to have his own house and he needs that, and let the kids know that you will all go for visits when he is settled,as you know your self this already has cause a great deal of stress, you don't need that, and you have done more than your share of helping him out,the kids will do fine don't worry. your dad should understand too but if he doesn't oh well. you need your family's sanity and privacy.... good luck

Answer 2

You need to tell her that grandpa is going to get his own house where she can visit with him. Tell her that grandparents are alot more fun when they don't live in the same house.

Then tell your dad to leave, but make sure your daughter is not home to hear the commotion. Find a friend that will let her come over until the yelling stops. Also, tell him that you are not that child he abused anymore. That if he wants any relationship with your children, he better work hard to start making up for his lack of one with you.

Sweetie, you deserve respect for the life you have made for yourself and this man is an abusive jerk. I'm sorry, I know he's your father, but haven't you taken enough off him? Kick him out! It's your right and priviledge. Let him know he cannot treat you with such disregard and disdain any longer and expect you to take care of him.

BTW, I'm older than him and I take care of myself. Lose the baggage and become happy.

Answer 3

Just explain to her that it is time for grandpa to have his own place now. And when he does get his own place, she can go over to his house and help him move in, decorate and even have sleep overs. Maybe she can even be included on helping pick out grandpa's new pad and buying stuff for it too.

Best wishes!

Answer 4

Well I doubt she wants anyone being mean to you ( six yr old perspective) Just tell her that you don't think Grandpa is treating you right and he needs to find his own house and she can visit him there.

Answer 5

Just explain to her that Grandpa is getting his own house now and that she can go visit him anytime she wants...

Answer 6

Tell your dad he's got to straighten up, or leave. Then enforce that. Your daughter will understand, eventually if not right away.

Answer 7

This is a real problem and I would seek professional help such as a therapist or a clergyman.
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Answer 8

Im sorry for youre situation. I think the harder question to answer isnt "why is granpa leaving" , but "why is mommy throwing her dad out" . He is youre dad, but its your call

Answer 9

let your family take care of him............they should not be mad with u ....................he is grown man.......just tell your daughter that grandpa will move into his own home.............and just let him come to visit

Answer 10

Tell tell her he won't be living there anymore but she will still see him sometimes.