How do i tell my boyfriend and parents that i am pregnant?

Question

Im 14, Mature young lady. I was my nephews mother for about 6 months. My parents know that i am perfectly capable of taking care of a baby. I have a full time job and go to school. I live a stressful life. But, When i did get that rare day off. My boyfriend and i decided it was time for him to loose his virginity. Well, I soon came to realize that he has mighty good sperm. (i do know how easy it is to get pregnant) Anyways, long story short. Im pregnant and looking for a way the way to tell my parents and boyfriend about this. I have the proof for my boyfriend because i know that will be the first question he asks.. Please help.. also my parents are understanding and care for me very much. Oh ya! I dont believe in abortion.

Answer 1

Goodness Gracious people the deed is already been done and there is already a baby growing so why keep putting her down on it, her question didn't have anywhere in it "please come and insult me" she was asking for help not rude answers.

Sweetie, just sit down with them and let them know that you are pregnant, I am not going to lecture you because some of the people on here have already done that. And I am not going to give you negative comments because that is not what you need right now. You made a mistake and you are willing to stand up and take credit for it and be a mature young adult about it. Just let them know that you are pregnant and that you are looking for their love and support, please understand that they are more than likely going to be mad and/or upset but just take it and go on, I wish you nothing but the best of luck and I have seen girls your age get pregnant when I was about your age and one of the mothers I am still friends with and see on occasion and she is doing one hell of a job at being a mother and has always done so since day one, so just because you are 14 doesn't mean you can't be a good mother. Keep your head high girl and pay no mind to the negative kind. If you would like to talk feel free to message me I would give out my other contacts but I don't want to post those on here for the public to see, I also have myspace if you have one of those and would like to contact me through that. Take care sweetie the best of luck to you.

TO HOT TO HANDLE JUST TO LET YOU KNOW I DID REPORT YOU FOR HARASSMENT. YOU NEED TO LEAVE ME ALONE, GET A LIFE, AND GROW UP.

Answer 2

I answered your other question, but I'm going to answer this one, too. I've copied and pasted what I wrote there.

I'm sorry that people were so cruel to you. :( If you haven't already told your boyfriend and parents, I would tell your boyfriend first. Sit him down, and tell him straight. I would avoid having a fancy dinner or giving him a gift to "butter him up". Just tell him that the two of you are going to have a baby. I would say "we're going to have a baby" as opposed to "I'm pregnant".

Then, the two of you can decide how to tell your parents. I, personally, would tell them together, provided your boyfriend agrees. Then, tell them the same thing. Say, "we're going to have a baby soon". If your parents are very conservative, it will probably be hard, but you have to do it sooner or later, and it's better to get it over sooner.

Most parents, regardless of how judgemental they are, will be happy to find out that they are going to be grandparents. They may be angry at first, but the anger will fade, esspecially when they meet their grandbaby.

You may want to wait until your 12 weeks before you tell your parents. The risk of miscarriage is much smaller after that. I would go ahead and tell your boyfriend now, though. He can be a great source of emotional support during this time. I certainly hope he will be.

Answer 3

You just need to sit down with them and explain the situation. However, have a plan in place before you talk to them. Are you sure that keeping the baby is the right decision? If you want to keep it, then figure out how you are going to care for this child while still going to school and working. You will have to find daycare and pay for diapers, wipes, food, formula, clothes, etc. Have some kind of plan in place so that your parents don't immediately think that they are going to have to do everything for you. However, you also need to be willing to listen to them and consider all the options that they offer. I know adoption can be a very difficult road, but sometimes it is the best thing you can do for your child. Sit down with your parents and talk to them about it as soon as possible so you can start working on your future.

Answer 4

If you were that mature, then you and your boyfriend would have used birthcontrol when you decided it was time for him to lose his virginity. You didn`t say anything about your own virginity which must mean you had already made the choice earlier to lose it. Since you didn`t use birthcontrol, now you will have to tell your parents. You will have to go in and tell them together that you are pregnant. There is no easy way to do it, and they will be disappointed, but they love you. You have no idea what your life will be like from this point on. You will need to be mature, because your life will be hard, and you are going to be growing up before your time. More likely than not, the father will not stay around to be a father to the baby, and you will be the baby`s sole provider.

Answer 5

Um paternity tests are impossible until after the baby is born so im curious how you have "proof" for your boyfriend... i think that a lot of this story doesnt add up... But if you really are pregnant you are way to young to even CONSIDER mothering a child, so start looking now -- there are thousands of couples looking to adopt.

Answer 6

I applaud that you aren’t going to have an abortion. As far as your parents there is no easy way other then sitting down with your parents first and just dropping the bomb. “Mom , Dad, your going to be grandparents again”


Actual you can get a paternity test done before a baby is born its not recommend though because there is a small risk to the unborn child. I think a woman has to be at least 6 weeks or more pregnant to have it done. http://www.homedna-test.com/Prenatal.htm

Answer 7

rude answers on here! Life is a journey. that one person said you don't derserve a child! Everyone derserves a child... but more than that, a child derserves a good home, which it sounds like you are going to try to provide... so cootos to you and luck. Congradulations... oh, and even in my 30's, guys still say 'it's not mine!' so expect that. How to tell them.. I would have them all over... write a letter and make a copy for them all.. leave the room while they all read the same letter and then come in the room a few mintues later... or leave and go to work and say at the bottom of your letter... I am keeping it and so I don't want you to say anything to me until you can say something positive.. I really need support right now, not people tearing me down, I have made up my mind.

As for the boyfriend, I would tell him on the phone. That way he can hang up and think about it for awhile...

Answer 8

Just tell them. Theres no avoiding it now, and since they are most likely going to find out one way or another, its better it comes from you now so everybody can prepare for it.

Sit them down and tell it to them straight. In the end it will be the best way to do it.

Answer 9

The only thing you can do is sit them down and tell them. It's going to be very hard for them to accept because of your age but, they love you and will stand by you. Good luck.

Answer 10

Holy cow. This is very sad. And sad that you know your boyfriend's first reaction will be "You're lying" or "It's not mine."

Tell your boyfriend, and if he doesn't run off, the two of you should then tell your parents. Just say it. "I'm pregnant." There's no way to beat around the bush.