My best friend finally got a boyfriend, and I'm happy for her and everything, but I'm also very worried about her. She really likes him, I guess, and she tells me that he's really nice, but he is sort of what you might call a 'bad boy'. He smokes pot and cigarettes, does ecstasy and he drinks. He probably does other stuff, too, but I'm not sure. He's also two years older than my friend (he turns 17 February 20 and she turns 15 February 2) I already told her to be careful and everything, but I'm not sure she'll listen to me. We also live in different states, so it's pretty much impossible to know what she's doing. I really need help. I know it's her business, but I really don't want her to screw up her whole life just for some loser she met. Oh and if it matters, she's never done any of these things before, I might add, but she might start, you never know.
2007-01-17 17:32:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
first of all, i think you're a treasured friend. a real friend.
maybe you can ask her to tell you what she thinks are his good qualities.. maybe there are some traits that she sees in him that we can't see.
since you say she is in another state, that's really difficult too. the environment and the people there might be different from where she came from or from where you are..
its sad to think we cannot control her actions.. but its her choice and just continue being a good friend. always be around when she needs you...eg. when that bf of hers breaks her heart, pressures her into doing something she doesn't want.. etc.
she's so fortunate to have you as a friend!
2007-01-17 17:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a good friend! Whatever happens goes back to her, the only thing you can do is pray for her, talk to her about it. Tell her why it matters to you and why she needs to move on now better than latter. I knew a girl like that now she smokes, drinks, etc. and the boy beats her up yet she still loves him. So he treats her like crap but she got herself traped in her own feelings that she made for herself. Those guys aren't worth it. If they were they wouldnt still do what they do. They would sacrifice and become good just so they would take care of their girl. And he's 17 so he should know that because he needs to become a man. And I wish you the best luck!!!
2007-01-18 02:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy is really bad. put some sense in your friends head. if she does not listen,well no one can help.
2007-01-18 01:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well trust her to not to make those mistakes,we all fall for the bad guy,i married one but he straghtend up alot
2007-01-18 02:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by slyshaunamichelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask her what is love....
And tell love is sharing and knowing each other completely...
Then ask how much she knows him...
And how much he shares with your friend..?
2007-01-18 01:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mushariar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋