I've found tranny porn on our computer, and i am curious as to why he likes this kind of thing. If i can make our sex life better, or if he is actually attracted to men. When we have sex, he never likes to please me.....he always says his dick does the pleasing! It really makes me upset because i am always the one to get him aroused, but he never does anything to me. I'm wondering if it has anything to do with this porn he likes or if it's just a curiosity of his and our sex life is something entirely different. Make sense?
2007-01-17 17:30:10 · 15 answers · asked by amaus22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also would like to know if i should bring this up to him, confronting to him that i know he's been looking at it, and that maybe it's affecting our sex life.
2007-01-17 17:32:09 · update #1
ask him,of course women need forplay to enjoy a good sex life,is he lazy or afraid that he won't know what to do because you have to learn together what you both like,i'd really want to talk this one out,doesn't sound normal to me
2007-01-17 17:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by jewel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-21 09:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider myself a pretty normal guy and I've enjoyed the occasional look at some tranny porn. Mostly just b/c it was different to see. I'd never really get off on it like regular porn but I figure if your going to watch a dude bang a chick it might as well be a dude that looks like another chick. I wouldn't suggest bringing it up with him. If I was him I would just be really embarrassed and worry about if you think I'm gay just like you're thinking. Just let the guy look at his porn.
2007-01-17 18:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First try to get him to open up about why he doesn't want to return the favors in bed. I could very well be the whole tranny thing. He is obviously intrigued by it to some degree. Otherwise he wouldn't be looking at it. Find out what his interest is in. When you ask him be sure to keep your voice calm and soothing. Make sure what you say is also not and accusation and more of a question. Believe me...that makes all the difference in the world.
2007-01-17 17:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh God I am so sorry you are in this situation. A few years ago I dated an odd man that was into stealing my clothes, was consistently mistaken for a gay man and was very selfish in bed. Then he started playing some very nasty games and I kicked him to the curb out of self-preservation. What I came to realized is that all of my life I had been manifesting and dating dangerous people in one degree or another. He just happened to be the lowest, the absolute bottom of my barrel. A whole life pattern was revealed to me that needed recognition and healing. Please know that you are not alone. This is very painful and I am sorry you have encountered it. You cannot change this person but you can change yourself. When it gets to be too much remember that you are not alone and you can get your needs met by a more suitable partner.
2007-01-17 18:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by S. Schaefer 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sometimes men like unusual porn, because its unusual, not because thats what they want to do...
If he likes pleasing you (or at least with his penis).. you could try something that may please him and you.. you could explore each others fantasies.. or you could bring up during sex (or if you source some porn) how hot it would be for you to have 2 guys or say how you'd like to be in a 69 with a guy while your husband took you from behind... your hubby may like the idea of another man in the bed with you as he could see/feel another penis as they both pleasured you (esp if you say you'd like to go down on them together, or have a double penetration..)
If he thinks you have naughty fantasies, he may open up more.. at the end of the day you could both have a better sex life..
2007-01-17 17:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't look at it if he wasn't curious and interested in it, and any interest in the abnormal demonstrates a desire to participate. I'd say he's a closet gay who is totally ashamed of it, that's probably why he always wants his cock played with, and is fascinated by it too, I bet, and doesn't give your naked body a second glance because that is not where his interest lies. Guaranteed if you play with his bum he'll not only let you but encourage you to (gross), and I think that if you bring it up to him, he will take the defence and freak out, more than likely he'll accuse you of spying on him, or acting like his mother, and then he'll sulk. He's a homophobe, and you know what they say about them- me thinks he doth protest too much!
2007-01-17 17:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should bring this up to him, and even ask him why he feels the need to look at tranny porn.
2007-01-17 17:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rocker Chick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definately a warning flag. Either bi or at least bi-curious. Perhaps you can approach the matter subtle way. Not a dirrect approach. If he wasn't guilty or ashamed he would have already mentioned something to the effect. Good luck.
2007-01-17 17:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he is only watching, then i would say that he is curious, but if he is watching it, you have to wonder why, and you could carefully inquire about it. the only problem is that you should first prepare yourself, for what he might give as an answer. good luck.
2007-01-17 17:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋